My ex-best friend and i have been ex-friends since the beginning of September. She was the best friend i have ever had. and i miss her a lot. we've gotten into to fights and all, but this time it's for good. I can tell. and i miss her a lot. and i think i might be driving some of my other friends away because of my depression. I don't know if i should still feel sad about the whold thing.
And i kind of have another problem. I'm worried for my two friends who are still her friend, but i don't want to see them get hurt like i got hurt. she got herself a whole new set of friends and totally ditched all her old friends. she doesn't hang out with them anymore and they're still her friends. I can't help but worry for them. Should i really feel this bad?
2007-02-01 17:05:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have tried to talk to her but she wont listen
and i realy want us to be friends again.
2007-02-01 17:06:31 · update #1
What happend was since Jr.high some of her new friends have influenced her to do bad.And also not to listen to me so we wont be friends.They said all she needed was them and she went along with it.=[
2007-02-07 16:18:44 · update #2
sounds like she may be into drugs .........
help her if you can.... thats what a true friend would do
through thick and thin
good luck
2007-02-01 17:11:51 · answer #1 · answered by Dreamer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As we grow and get older, our likes and dislikes change, so will our friends. There will be a lot of people that you start out with that you won't finish with, don't be deterred, it is called life. You will grieve for you lost best-friendship, but in time that too will lessen. As for your other friends, you can not tell anyone anything they don't want to know, they will have to learn on their own. Please don't be depressed and if you can state it you can control it, talk to a parent/mentor/older friend, don't keep such things inside, you have to talk this out. There is nothing wrong with you, you are just growing up, which isn't easy either, but in the grand scheme of things, it is what you have to do. Right now it might seem like your whole world, but you will see it isn't and that there are horizons yet to view, with new friends, but most of all you have to be your own "best" friend. God Bless.
2007-02-09 04:56:09 · answer #2 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This happend to me once me and my friend where friends for years and years and then one fight we did not talk for 2 years. I missed her like crazy and tried to talk to her but she wanted nothing to do with them. She also got all new friends and kindda left out the old ones. But I wrote her a long heart to heart letter about how I felt and even thow it was 2 years we became friends again that was 4 years ago and we are still friends today. I say write her a long letter things seem to be easier said in a letter anyway try that and see what happens. I know what its like to miss a friend and I hope everything works out for you.
2007-02-06 23:43:04 · answer #3 · answered by Amy D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give it time. If she really is your friend she will come around when she is ready. We can't push our friendship on others. It just happens naturally. Also, you mention depression. You need to find someone you can talk to about this. People, in general, tend to stay away of depressing people. Try hard to smile and seem happy when you are around others. Look at all the good things life has to offer. Your friends can take care of themselves. Just take care of yourself for right now.
2007-02-09 09:34:36 · answer #4 · answered by Jodi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to let things go with her. Find a new hobby or sport or activity where you'll meet new people with the same interests as you and take your mind off what you once had with your friend. Hearts heal and one day you two may be friends again but for now, just let her go. Let someone else fill that spot in your life.
2007-02-09 00:35:21 · answer #5 · answered by obladiblada 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let your friend do what she has to do and when she gets into trouble be there for her but dont criticize her just listen to her.She will fall and when she does she will need her true friend there you. Dont say anything to the other girls if she is that bad they will find out on there own. It will make it like your jealous of there relationship with her and make you look bad if it gets back to her.Good luck
2007-02-09 04:28:39 · answer #6 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is your answer:
don't feel sad....be happy.
you must be a great person if you really do think of others this much. So really the friend who chose to not be your friend ...does not deserve such a good pal like you.
Take time choosing the right kind of friends..not everyone is a good friend so be careful and select wisely who you choose to be your friend .Ask God for wisdom because He will always give you wisdom.
2007-02-02 01:15:49 · answer #7 · answered by supergirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing good in making her friend again as u already know that she cant carry her friendship with a person for a long time.Look for another
2007-02-02 01:10:29 · answer #8 · answered by cutiepie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW BABE. TOTALLY FEEL FOR YOU. TRY TO FIND SOMETHING THAT MAKES YOU HAPPY. DON'T WORRY ABOUT THE OTHERS, YOU NEED TO FOCUS ON YOU NOW. YOU MAY MISS HER A WHOLE LOT BUT BE STRONG- BE STRONG FOR YOU. IF YOUR OTHER FRIENDS CAN'T HELP YOU WHILE YOU ARE HURTING THEN FORGET THEM TOO. MOVE ON.
2007-02-02 01:13:27 · answer #9 · answered by SWEET SARAH 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't tell what ended the friendship. It sounds as your pal doesn't have a mind of her own.
2007-02-08 22:43:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋