If I file for a separation, can he do something so I won't have access to the bank account we share? (I'm only worried because we have a one year old daughter!). Same question for if I filed for divorce? Any info you can give me or advice would be helpful. I'm leaving him next weekend.
2007-02-01 16:30:01 · 16 answers · asked by .*AnNa*. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Okay, for those of you who feel like you must judge me before you just answer my question : If you really care and want to know how bad my marriage is and how afraid of my husband I am, just read my other questions. There was no need for me to have to bring all that stuff up.
2007-02-01 16:41:18 · update #1
If your name is on the account, no, he can't, but he could drain the account or not put his money into it. My advice is take what you need before you tell him you are leaving.
2007-02-01 16:33:45 · answer #1 · answered by kiera70 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's too early in the relationship to start having such problems however, one of the main causes of divorce these days among others is money problems. I don't know how long you knew each other before you got married but this is one of those really important things that should have been discussed before you tied the knot. However, the deed had been done now and it is very important for both of you to sit down and talk about how you are going to resolve this. There has to be a way that you could both agree on who is going to pay what. Obviously the bills are too much for you alone so if he still insists on separate accounts I guess you can't force him to have a joint account. You may have to sit down with him and tell him which bills you will pay and which bills you wont then tell him why. If all else fails then see if you could see a marriage counselor because obviously there are a few issues that you guys need to work on and seeing things through someone else's perspective may help. Talk about the bill situation first, hear what he has to say without pressing the issue of joint accounts. I hope you work things out.
2016-03-29 01:03:28 · answer #2 · answered by Rebecca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take what you need for yourself and the baby and start a bank account in your own name with some of it and keep the rest in cash hidden somewhere or in a safe deposit box. Divorces can be very bitter and there are plenty of exes that never receive a dime child support even after getting a court order during a divorce. You seriously need to make a contingency plan as to your living arrangements Not relying on him for assistance, that way anything you should receive from him can be put away for incidentals that are bound to come up. No one will care for you or your baby like you will and you need to be prepared!!
2007-02-01 17:03:01 · answer #3 · answered by Ellyn C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can probably file for divorce and also at the same time file an injunction barring him access to the bank account and also an injunction allowing you to take the car until the situation is resolved, talk to a lawyer about it first though
2007-02-01 17:15:23 · answer #4 · answered by zether 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No... the bank account is still both of yours and in each of your names, he or you could withdraw money without the others approval. You can get a lawyer who can put a freeze on the account so the money will not be withdrawn. This protects both of you until a divorce is final.
2007-02-01 16:38:09 · answer #5 · answered by boddkins 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes even if both names on acct. if you leave and he goes in and takes it all theres not a lot you can do about it. but if you file for separation and he then takes money out of the acct he will be in big trouble.. because ones you file for divorce neither can touch or sell anything till judge says so. so ifyour planning on leaving if it was me i would take half the money in the acct and leave him the other half..does show you in good faith. good luck
2007-02-01 16:48:13 · answer #6 · answered by Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOUR HUSBAND CAN EMPTY THE ACCOUNT- SO CAN YOU- YOU HAVE A JOINT ACCOUNT. JUST PLAN YOUR 'MOVES' VERY CAREFULLY. VERY CAREFULLY! IF YOU LEAVE HIM AND THINK YOU CAN JUST USE THE ACCOUNT FORGET IT, HE CAN AND WILL TAKE YOU OFF THE ACCOUNT. YOU NEED TO PLAN VERY CAREFULLY- SAVE SOME $ LITTLE BY LITTLE IF YOU CAN, HOWEVER IF HE IS ABUSIVE TO YOU YOU CAN DEPEND ON A LOT OF ORGANIZATIONS TO HELP YOU THROUGH YOUR TIME OF NEED TO GET YOU BACK ON YOUR FEET. IF YOU JUST WANT TO LEAVE HIM OR YOU FOUND THAT HE IS CHEATING YOU CAN WALK INTO THE BANK AND TAKE IT ALL AND RUN.
2007-02-01 16:46:35 · answer #7 · answered by SWEET SARAH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I filed for divorce, thats one of the first questions they ask... first off, if you are relying on this, theres a possibility that he can draw all of the money out of the account.. so, you need to think about this... because, thats exactly what my now ex husband did to me, he actually drew out all the money
2007-02-01 16:39:32 · answer #8 · answered by emtb9 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
He can take all the money out.
Have you thought about marriage therapy. You have a child together. It is important to do everything in your power to save this marriage. Think about this one. One day. after your child grew up without dad, your child will ask you why you and dad did not work. They last thing you want to say is because you stopped loving each other. The best thing to say is because you have tried everything in your power to stay together, even a therapy, but unfortunately, it did not work.
2007-02-01 16:37:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If it is both of your names no he cannot without a valid reason and i think you have to agree to it.. Do you have your own atm card or is it just his???? I really dont think he can though if it is a joint account but if it is only in his name he can. Why are you leaving your husband if i may ask?
2007-02-01 16:34:22 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋