i am caught up in a love triangle yall and i need some advice well, i have been married for almost 2 years and before i got married i told my husband that we should wait a while and he told me that if we wait then we shouldnt be together me being afraid of losing him i married him, all during the marriage its been nothing but fighting him not working and if he did have a job he quit him having a attitude and taking it out on me i just got tired of everything and i met this guy friends at first but now its a love thing my husband knows about it now that he know he wants to do everything to make me happy but its to late cause im so into this other guy he makes me feel so good yall. What should i do im so confused i have never been in this situation before
2007-02-01 16:09:41 · 7 answers · asked by mrsp27 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i gave my marriage a try and i was always there for my husband and if he need me for anything im there but i lost alot of respect and love for him because he didnt stand up and be a man and do what he needed to do for his family and i think it is crazy because the only reason why he is trying so hard now is beause he lost a a part of me and i think if he didnt get this wake up call he would be doing the same thing.
2007-02-01 23:42:07 · update #1
Follow your heart and never look back. But don't ever put yourself in this position again. Not in an unhappy marriage or a love triangle. There will always be a trust issue between you and your boyfriend because you proved that you can be unfaithfull. That goes for your unhappy husband too.
2007-02-01 16:16:48 · answer #1 · answered by interstatejunky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you never should have married for that reason alone... You got married for the wrong reasons and that is why you are having alot of trouble in your marriage now... But you should live with your choice and vows and work on your marriage and let the other guy go... Seek help and counseling for you marriage. You know this is the right thing to do. If you really want to be selfish and dump your husband for this guy then let the poor guy go and divorce him and dont confuse and hurt him anymore so that he can move on with his life and find someone who will love and appreciate him for who he is that deserves a guy like him... He deserves to be happy just like you do. I really feel that you need to focus and work on your marriage though. Your husband deserves this.
2007-02-02 00:16:36 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i do not know what you believe but i am sure that you know that if you cheat on your spouse it is a sin. The lord says do unto others as you would want done unto you. I do not believe in divorce so i would say if you would both seek the lord you will see that you will both be on the same page and things should start to get better if you both will put all your heart into it. Maybe you should give him another chance. There was a reason you married him in the first place. Why don't you try feeling what you felt for him then. I wish you the best. God Bless.
2007-02-02 00:25:05 · answer #3 · answered by colorred 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is respect and honor the vows you made to your husband. Give the marriage a chance - maybe he needed this wakeup call to realize that he doesn't want to lose you. As long as you're married to your husband, there shouldn't be another man. You went to this other guy looking for whatever it was you weren't getting from your husband instead of putting the effort into your marriage. Either get into counseling with your husband and stop seeing this other guy, or give up on the commitment you made to your husband and your marriage and file for divorce.
2007-02-02 00:15:20 · answer #4 · answered by ~StepfordWife~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe regardless how you get into a marrige, you must always give it a chance. If they other guy loves you, he will back of. You and your husbad should go to marriage therapy. As a couple, it is your responsibility to do everything you can to save the marriage. If in the end you decide that this cannot work, then you separate, but at least you gave it a try.
2007-02-02 00:15:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that you got marry for the wrong reason. if you were not
sure how you feel before you got marry that why you are in
this. you cant make a marriage work when there is no honest
that will make it even worst. you need to let him know how you
feel about what is going on and then you need to to what is
best thing for you. you cant open one chapter until you close
the one that you in right now.
2007-02-02 00:49:17 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ho ho ho
2007-02-02 00:28:58 · answer #7 · answered by j_mang 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋