Well I recently deployed to Iraq. My longtime GF and I were planning on marriage. In the back of my mind I believe that she is cheating on me. Phone records, and that good ole message archive on yahoo messenger almost confirms it. I just want to know how I would go about confronting her. Its kind of funny how I can brave my life everyday with bullets and bombs. Yet when it comes to confronting her (it seems so simple) its just so hard to do.
2007-02-01 16:07:09 · 14 answers · asked by Rob M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She's your GF now
You are planning on marriage
You know she is cheating
You want to confront her
You are a brave soldier in Iraq
You already know the answer.
Ask her flat out, confront her with the evidence
Don't set any marriage date until your fears are relieved of this matter. You deserve the best, settle for nothing less my hero. You certainly don't need this emotional mess on your mind being in that danger zone now...it could get you killed.
Good luck soldier, be safe and thanks a million for serving.
2007-02-01 16:14:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've gotta say... I was in almost this exact same position. He would ask me to leave the room if he was talking on yahoo im with only one specific girl. It drove me nuts. One day i looked at his message archive and found out he planned on visiting her, doing things to her, etc. It hurt a lot. I confronted him about it. There was nothing else I couldve done. We talked about it and dealt with it. We're still together and want to get married soon. This is still in my mind. I don't know if i can marry him because I don't want to be with someone forever who I'm not going to completely trust. I think that you should break up with your girlfriend. I'm not a good example, but your situation sounds horrifying. Talk to her and if the problem isn't resolved, it will do you better in the long run to forget about her. It's hard, but trust me, the pain of living with it will be worse, especially if youre going to be gone for a year at a time.
Good luck man.
2007-02-02 00:19:56 · answer #2 · answered by amanda w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait for the "Dear John" in the post. Get in first. Ask Her, point blank, just exactly what is the situation. Try starting with "Is there someone else"? Don't let fear hold You back. Get it off Your chest. That way You can get Your mind back to what You are doing and not risk any distractions. One phone call, or a fax, or even a simple Email will Get You the answer You require. Go for broke. You either find out that She is Yours, or else You are free of Her.
(PS keep Your head down!!!!!!!!!!)
2007-02-02 00:17:58 · answer #3 · answered by Ashleigh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not a fool. It happens to the best of us and I know this from experience.
You have to confront her. Absense is NO excuse. As far as I'm concerned there is no excuse for cheating. You have to confront her. Better still if you have the evidence at hand, then if she tries to lie about it you can show her the messages. her reaction to those will tell all. I am so sorry this happened to you while serving your country!! There is someone out there for you that will not cheat! Thanx for keeping us safe.
2007-02-02 00:19:05 · answer #4 · answered by Bewitched 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you still have access to those message archives? If I were you I'd print that out and confront her with them. Or if you are deployed at the moment, mail them to her with a brief note demanding an explanation. I hope it's not what you are thinking. Good luck...
2007-02-02 00:19:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to confront her and tell her what you found. It should not be that hard you need to be happy too. Here you are fighting for our country while she is going behind your back and finding another man to comfort her. You are still so young and have plenty of life ahead of you. Why settle for someone that is not willing to wait and be faithful. There are so many fish in the sea find someone who is honest and loving towards you.
2007-02-02 01:13:00 · answer #6 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's sometimes so hard to deal with problems in our lives that are so close to us emotionally. think we fear the worst, and know that if we do confront them, it may cause our lives to change drastically into something we really don't want and aren't ready for. if u have proof of the cheating, it is always best to know and seek the truth, and stay out of the denial thing. no one wants to believe the worst abut someone we love. think we do fear the truth, because if we knew they truth we would have to make a decision about our life.
2007-02-02 09:12:03 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur not a fool...i am the wife at home and the hubby is in Iraq so i can say that i feel ur pain....just tell her..she is caught..thats it simple as that..funny she didn't cover her tracks she really wanted to be caught i believe! hmm why is this subject so familiar umm join the club is all i can say...i feel ur pain
2007-02-02 00:13:40 · answer #8 · answered by ♥queen b♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront her. and then walk away from her. you do not need to know the answer, you already know. your are a hero to many. there is a girl out there for you, just not her
2007-02-02 00:20:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you know she is doing it and you keep denying the inevitable..just ask her,but tell her you know the answer before she starts denying it. Just ask her why? Tell her you know the who, what , when, and where, just want to know why..Good luck to you.
2007-02-02 00:15:10 · answer #10 · answered by Chloe f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋