Little background info.. I have been seeing this guy for about a month that I met on yahoo personals.. Nice guy..successful..fun to be around.. we have been out to eat/to the movies.. I was the first one he introduced to his house roomates.. well.. tonight I ran across his ad on a man4sex site... his ad says " If i'm on-line I'm looking to play or chat. Hit me up!" then lists.. "what he's into".. (by the way there is a posted d**k pic that was not in yahoo profile) He seems to be upfront with me.. He is 24.. comes from a well off family.. so has money.. I am currently a junior in college... have been visiting him during the week/weekends.. so.. question is.. what should I do? Do I bring it up to him/question him posting this? Do I ask if he is just using me for sex? He has invited me to his house tomorrow evening.. should I go? I appreciate any help that you all give... if need more info.. let me know.. thanks everyone in advance!
2007-02-01 16:06:23 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I have seen him about 10times in the last month.. He travels a bit often.. will he be even more apt to meet another guy? Should I offer us to just be friends? Smart guy.. going to be so upset if this does not workout..
2007-02-01 16:08:49 · update #1
should I make another name on ad site to see what he says/if he trys to hook up with me.. thinking I am someone else?
2007-02-01 16:10:22 · update #2
It sounds like he's playing games. You need to talk to him, if you don't it will drive you crazy, and go from there. Decide if this is the type of relationship you want.
2007-02-01 16:17:20 · answer #1 · answered by shark_315 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whoa slow down there cowboy! Have you stopped to consider that the mansex profile was created long before he knew you? (and yahoo doesn't allow x-rated pics in the personals/profiles).
You can't tell me this shocks or upsets you. When I was dating a guy a couple years ago I came across his profiles on about 10 other sites...did it bother me? Not in the least since I knew they were created long before he knew me. And so what if this guy is out there meeting other people for sex or whatever...do you and he have an exclusive monogamous relationship? Sounds like you're being awfully possessive.
Sorry if that sounds harsh but I've been there and one that and believe me....nothing good comes out of it.
2007-02-02 04:02:10 · answer #2 · answered by behrmark 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 10:47:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he actually promised you anything, or have you just assumed? I really don't think you should play games with him, because if he is the real deal and he finds out.... Just ask him where you stand. You don't have to bring up the pictures etc straight away. Be clever - ask him questions about whether he wants an exclusive relationship, and if he says yes, then confront him about the photos. DON'T game play. Good luck!
2007-02-01 16:43:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd go to his house and bring up the page, and see what he does... if you're into him, then the night may continue in great success... i mean you were browsing the male4sex site...
2007-02-01 16:10:35 · answer #5 · answered by Chipper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you feel about him? Do you think he is relationship material? Can you imagine picking out furniture out with him? Once you know exactly how you feel, and if you want him to be that guy, then talk to him and find out where you stand with him.
2007-02-01 16:17:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know---make life easy on yourself..don't play games..it'll just get confusing...just ask him upfront what it means.
2007-02-01 18:57:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are the two of you officially an item,or are you just dating?...If you're not exclusive he can continue date whomever he wants and it's none of your business.
2007-02-01 17:00:19 · answer #8 · answered by Direktor 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stay away. He is lier to the people.
2007-02-01 16:13:45 · answer #9 · answered by MexicoMike 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to him.
2007-02-01 17:21:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋