Where are all the nice guys? I have the wedding already planned! I have two little boys that would make adorable ringbearers.
2007-02-01 15:48:10 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can't afford to calm down. I'm almost 30.
2007-02-01 15:52:44 · update #1
It's not about the wedding, it's about the marriage.
Seriously, what planning have you done to learn to live in harmony with a man?
What is marriage about? Marriage and a wedding are two very different things.
Anyone can have a wedding, but what about the marriage.
I say this because you've written only about the wedding, but you've said nothing about what you've done to prepare to be an excellent wife.
Some of the best advice I ever got was that to find the one, you first must be the one.
So, I recommend that you develop and implement a plan to be the kind of wife that a man would love to marry and that you not settle for anything less than a man who would be an excellent husband.
One who is more focused on the marriage than the wedding day.
The wedding is a day, the marriage is for life. Spend your time with that idea in mind.
2007-02-01 15:56:32 · answer #1 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all the nice guys want a woman with a ready made family. I think you're going at this wrong. You don't plan a wedding before you meet the groom. You don't choose ringbearers because your kids are cute. You sound waaaayyyy too desperate. Slow down; give it time; let it happen. Otherwise, you'll just be getting another divorce because you'll settle for anyone..
2007-02-01 23:54:25 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason why it is so hard for you to find a husband could be the fact that you have it written all over your face. It scares a guy when they can see that you want to settle down and get married really fast. Slow down have fun you are still young. Married life can be very hard especially when you have children from a previous relationship. I say just hang out and focus on having fun instead of finding Mr Right. When you stop looking whoops there he is. Make sure you find someone that is going to love your children and respect your children that is the most important thing.
2007-02-02 01:21:05 · answer #3 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can afford to calm down....I'm 43 and didn't find "the one" until 2 years ago....and it was worth every minute of the wait. I found the best. Stop planning the wedding, let the love find you....and trust me it will. Concentrate on you....get involved in hobbies and things you like. Build your self esteem and most importantly build your life around you and the kids. The guy will come along naturally........exactly when you didn't expect him to.
2007-02-01 23:56:16 · answer #4 · answered by Justlookin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you serious?
geeeeez, calm down with the rush attitude, most guys can sense it and get scared off really quick, especially if you don't even have a guy yet but already have the wedding planned out
wow, you know, i was thinking about maybe settling down and getting married in the near future, but now you got me scared
nice guys are everywhere, you are just not looking hard enough, or in the right places, but we are out there
2007-02-01 23:55:42 · answer #5 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Singlemom, look as if you could use some help. Word of advice is just to be patient and let love come to you. You see we often get cought up in the moment of wanting to have someone love us bad enough that instead of waiting for it to happen naturally we go looking for love,searching and prowling for it in all the wrong places which is why we end up in a lot of bad relationships, divorced, and broken hearted. My word of encouragment is simply this: Let love come to you but search no more for God will send you your soulmate whenhe is ready, not you.
2007-02-02 00:04:45 · answer #6 · answered by chris a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is certainly not a reason to get married.
Why do you think you already have 2 boys without a husband?
Slow down & learn from past mistakes first.
2007-02-01 23:57:54 · answer #7 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not going to get ANY guy if you totally plan and are waiting with "baited breath" to walk down the aisle. Nobdy wants to feel pushed into getting married especially not to someone who is DESPERATE
2007-02-01 23:52:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok - you need to be content with life as it is - it's only when you stop looking that you'll find the right one. Believe me - I gave up - and then the right one came along and now we're happily married.
2007-02-01 23:56:38 · answer #9 · answered by lifesajoy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not try so hard and push people away. Get out more joining clubs etc. And I hope that when u do find someone, he can plan too.
2007-02-01 23:51:59 · answer #10 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋