2007-02-01 15:33:30 · 22 answers · asked by nad 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have a high sex drive, but he often refuses me. I would like him to see what rejection feels like and maybe the lack for him might entice him. What do you think? This is of course in a nonchalant way...
2007-02-01 15:58:40 · update #1
Of course you can. As a wife we aren't a machine for his use, we're a living breathing person that has the right to not want sex at times. He'll have to deal with it, the way he would if he didn't want sex at a particular time. I think however if you refuse on a continual basis you're chancing tearing away the intimacy of a marriage.
2007-02-01 15:39:35 · answer #1 · answered by Justlookin 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Hi Nad, I guess I am a bit biased here since I am a guy and a married man who likes having sex with my wife. You shouldn't refuse sex with your man - that would be the likely response from a guy. But you can't alwayz have sex, sometimes you are tired, stressed or just not in the mood. Sex isn't everything in a relationship. But I reckon that sex is a great connection thing between a couple and sometimes if a guy is constantly knocked back by his wife we start to question what is going on. Doesn't she like it, am I not satisfying her etc. So long as he knows that this isn't the problem. But hey sex is fun - and I say go for it!!
2007-02-01 23:50:58 · answer #2 · answered by jtgot1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Sex is not a "chore" expected to be completed by either person against thier will. If this does happen, it can lead to sexual assualt and rape (yes, if you say no & you're married, it's still rape). Besides, what good is sex when only one person is in the mood? That makes it lose it's emotional level, which in turn calls for resentment and less desire to have sex later on. However, if you are only apprehensive about having sex because of past experiences, or because of a past history of abuse, then talk to your husband-you 2 can work on that to make sex comfortable and ENJOYABLE for the both of you.
Your question was a little vague so I hoped a I was able to provide a helpful answer to you.
Good Luck
2007-02-01 23:40:36 · answer #3 · answered by Army chick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless there's extenuating circumstances... NO. Don't get me wrong, if I have a migraine, or something like that, he knows enough not to even ask. But unless I have a good reason, the answer is always yes. Hey, even if you start off not in the mood, certain things can change your mind... and most of the time you wind up enjoying yourself. It's not only women that hate rejection - it stings for men too. So why would I reject him just cause I'm tired? Is half an hour really going to make a difference? To my sleep, no. To him, yes. Besides... sex is fun, why would you refuse your husband???
2007-02-01 23:49:13 · answer #4 · answered by ~StepfordWife~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some people just have higher sex drives then others do. Two wrongs do not make a right. You do not want your marriage based on playing games. You need to communicate with him and tell him you want it more frequently if he still turns you down then go get a toy and have fun. You had to marry him for more reasons then just sex. Try to dress more sexier all day long. Tell him what you would like to do to him and what you want done to you. Give him little hints throughout the day and get his mind to wonder.
2007-02-02 01:28:29 · answer #5 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I guess it depends on the situation but do keep one thing in mind, if you refuse him too much, he may start to look elsewhere. Me personally, I love sex too much to refuse my husband but it would have to be a really good reason why I refused him & if I did ever feel a need to refuse him, I'd still do what I could to give him a release. But I have never felt a need to refuse him sex. Sex helps to keep us connected but of course is not the only thing that keeps us connected but the funnest connection.
2007-02-01 23:43:07 · answer #6 · answered by maryannmccarthy2003 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell yeah,that's why he is your husband if he wanted sex 24/7 he wouldn't of got married.They say when you get that ring on the finger it drops of to 1 or 2 a month so go ahead refuse him all you want you have the ring.
2007-02-01 23:53:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course, your body is not open 24/7 just to please his urges. However, make sure you set aside time when your up to it and don't keep turning him down. A man can only take so much rejection before he seeks others to get his urges taken care of.
2007-02-01 23:41:54 · answer #8 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's a wifes duty to fulfill her husbands needs every time. The ones that feel they should refuse can't figure out why he's out with other women.
Bottom line, if he's fed at home, he'll be too full to eat out.
2007-02-01 23:44:29 · answer #9 · answered by WestCoastin4Life 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No never! In fact you should entice him to have sex if you want to stay married and you don't want him to stray from the home.
2007-02-01 23:58:44 · answer #10 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋