I just moved into this room and I am really starting to get annoyed with one of my roomates, she always has to have her way and if something annoys her, she screams at people and it really scares me. She's always getting mad over the stupidest stuff and I feel like I have to walk on eggshells around her. I don't know how to talk to her about how I'm feeling b/c I know she'll just get defensive and get mad again.
2007-02-01 15:31:32 · 5 answers · asked by irisheyes47 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Wow, that sucks. I would start looking for a new room. I know moving sucks, but it probably won't get any better.
I am irish too. Hope this helps
2007-02-01 15:36:10 · answer #1 · answered by BlueEyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your room-mate is spoiled and very immature. I think I would try to talk to her about how you are feeling, after all, it is your room too!You should not have to live like that. You aren't doing anything wrong to provoke her,it sounds like she isn't happy with who she is. Have you tried to ignore her(I know that's probably hard to do) but sometimes if you can block her out and just be your happy self it might rub off on her. If talking and blocking doesn't work, I would look for a new room-mate or move myself. Whatever you chose to do, don't let anyone else rob you of your joy in life! It sounds like you are a caring, sensitive person and I wish the very best for you. Take care- You will know the right thing to do.
2007-02-01 15:49:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try this as an experiment:
Be friendly and polite, but do not get friendly with her. Don't confide in her, don't let her have the benefit of your friendship.
When she does something that annoys you stay calm and just say, "You have just crossed a boundary with me and if we're going to live together in peace you can't do that anymore, period."
If she throws down again, tell her to stay away from you and have her fit in another room, and thanks. It's her fit, it has nothing to do with you, so she should keep it to herself. Don't get emotionally involved. Don't let her ruin your day. Tell her, "I'm not going to let you ruin my day, go cry quietly on your pillow please, cause I'm not your Mommy, I can't make it better for you. That's up to you!" and then walk off singing your favorite song. It will make her realize what a child she is. Good Luck!
2007-02-01 15:49:37 · answer #3 · answered by babydoll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youre dealing with a bully. The best way is to say what you have to say to her and if she wants to screech like some little child let her. When shes done yelling tell her youre not interested in her tantrums that they just make her look like an idiot.
2007-02-01 15:36:41 · answer #4 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PUT HER IN A BOX TAPE IT PUT IT IN THE BASEMENT
2007-02-01 15:36:23 · answer #5 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋