My wife and I have been married for 3 years now. I met her in Germany while I was stationed in the military there. When we came back to the U.S. she was interested in trying modeling. I was naive about the modeling world and encouraged her. But the first times she went the pictures she took were very risque. Pictures in see through lingerie and in extremely sexy poses. To me this was a way only I as a husband should see my wife. I told her how I felt and of course we argued as she could not understand my point, but she agreed to not pursue it. After time she started wanting it bad again, so I said I had no problem if it was fashion and that sort, but she didnt seem to enjoy that, and even in the fashion shots some really pushed the limit. And now lately she wants it again and has gotten a bunch of the old risque photos and posted them on different sites and her myspace!! Now everyone even people at her work can see my wife in basically underwear! What should I do. Im losing it!!
2007-02-01 15:20:33 · 15 answers · asked by espltd002 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why does she need to have these pictures on my space? something is wrong here. Real models dont have to pose like that. Say exactly how you feel. You need to handle this but be ready, cause she will be pissed and it sounds like she might even end up leaving.
2007-02-01 15:25:36 · answer #1 · answered by monica your new bff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's an exhibitionist and needs to find out why she's throwing away her marriage so that she can be seen. Her self-absorption is driving you apart. I would bet that if you handed her an ultimatum - cover up or I'm leaving you - she would probably let you go.
And, if she did, you could probably count yourself very lucky. There are too many other wonderful women out there to waste on this shallow person. At some point in the near future, she's going to lose all of that glamor. And, then, what's left? Tons of plastic surgery bills that you'll have to pay for her fight against gravity.
Get out now and find a better mate.
2007-02-01 17:07:36 · answer #2 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey you should be proud of your wife that she has found something that she enjoys doing . Let those dirty perv's drool over your wife cause at the end of the day they can say she is hot and stuff like that but she is coming home to you and only you.If she didn't feel comfortable in her marriage and thought that she was going to stray Hey to be honest you don't have anything to worry about.Have you thought for a moment how your wife feel with you line of work you are away from her for some months of the year and she trusts you so that's what you need to do is trust her and respect her as a person.Hey mate she has a good body so she should be able to show it off to mags. She's your wife and she loves you you need to trust her
2007-02-01 21:47:21 · answer #3 · answered by blue eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, simply my opinion...and I know that it must be heartbreaking to have your wife be so risque for all the world...and you have obviously voiced your opinions to her-if she refuses to change and you refuse to let her continue her desired career there really isn't any way to solve it other than to let the marriage go. Just remember that 1. She's not cheating on you, she's only modeling-she's a beautiful woman, maybe you should show her that more at home and she wouldnt have to show it off to other people?, *not saying you dont* 2. She could be doing it to get a rise out of you and create more sexual energy from you *remember that women are in fact conniving and we are very confusing creatures* 3. If modeling the way she does is truely her passion and you truely love her than don't give up on your relationship because somebody that you can't live without isnt worth giving up 4.are you jealous or are you sincere about her showing off?
anyway, try to see things maybe from her point of view, and ask her CALMLY to see things from your point of view, i mean-she probably isn't gonna like it if you strut your stuff in front of a bunch of women you know what i mean? But-she's not "strutting her stuff in front of a bunch of men", she's simply trying to make a carreer out of the beauty that you fell in love with. :-)
Good luck!!! I hope everything turns out good!!!!
2007-02-01 15:32:17 · answer #4 · answered by janette k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, I don't know. It doesn't sound good but you're probably going to have to just drop it and let it run its course. Otherwise, you will just argue and argue and her "modeling" career will drive a wedge between you and her. That said, I'm with you buddy and am sorry she doesn't value and respect your point of view more. I'll bet if the "shoe were on the other foot," and you were the one posing in your skivvies and it bothered her, you'd have no choice whatsoever in the matter and would have to stop. It's never a "two-way street" with women. Good luck.
2007-02-01 15:34:55 · answer #5 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would really upset me too, I'm so sorry. I hate to always be the one to say this but, other than talking to her about it (which you say you already have, in depth) there's not much you can do. People do what they want to no matter what you say. If your wife is determined to model in that way you have to decide whether or not it's something you can live with as her husband. Try to put it in perspective. Is this a deal breaker or do all her other wonderful qualities outweigh this one? There's nothing you can do to actually control her so that being said, can you live with it? That's a decision only you can make. Sorry if I wasn't much help!! Good luck!
2007-02-01 15:29:26 · answer #6 · answered by answergrrl3 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can tell her that This is NOT how you pictured your marriage to turn out- with her showing her self to whoever wants to look at her and that you thought that she had MORE respect for HERSELF and YOU and YOUR MARRIAGE!! And then ask her how she would feel if you two have kids and they SEE her looking like that someday when they get on the computer or somebody shows them pictures of her 1/2 naked would she want that to happen?? Most women wouldn't!! Hope this helps Good Luck!! Other wise maybe talk to her parents if you can?!??
2007-02-01 15:25:50 · answer #7 · answered by buffster06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the response of answergrr to be best for this problem.
You are not the only victim, I'm sure, and as a fellow Veteran let
me suggest contact with a Padre. You are in God's hands. Don't
let Satan lead you away.
2007-02-01 16:25:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she want attention from anyone and I guess it not about the money, because she is letting the world see her for free. If she does not listen to reason, I would guess you can either accept the fact that she likes to exploit herself or file for a divorce good luck
2007-02-01 15:31:34 · answer #9 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go, she obviously craves attention that only a single girl can get.
Move on..., before you have children together and end up in a divorce/family court for the rest of your lives !
2007-02-01 15:26:44 · answer #10 · answered by DixieNormus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋