I need help being cheared up?

Question

I have lived my whole life a lie.

I told people I was rich, WRONG i am poor

I told people I knew famous people, WRONG i know noone

And the list goes on and on and on and on, ext

Anything to cheer me up please would get a thank you. I have been depressed too long, I have been taking Zoloft. My whole life is a lie, PLease try and chere me up. I havent had a happy moment for a while.

Answer 1

Well, first of all, resolve to put lies behind you. I think lying is a habit that just gets out of control. Sounds mostly harmless anyway. Seems like you just wanted attention from people and you didn't know how else to get it. Everyone needs attenntion. Don't beat yourself up over it. When I was younger, I'd lie about stupid stuff. (I'm not saying you're stupid, I'm talking about me) I don't even know why I did it because telling the truth would actually not have hurt the situation. Anyway, go put on a really stupid, mindlessly funny TV show and have a good laugh. My husband can't figure out why I watch America's Funniest Videos but I do it because I always end up laughing at how imperfect the world is. I especially get a kick out of people's perfect weddings getting messed up. Not because I'm mean, but because we take ourselves WAY too seriously. We're allowed to screw up. Learn to laugh at yourself. Hey, a movie that always cracks me up is Mel Brooks' Young Frankenstein. Anyway, I hope you feel better. If Zoloft doesn't help (I don't know how long you've been taking it) then ask for something else. One last thought - your whole life can't be a lie because your whole life isn't over yet.

Answer 2

This may seem cliche and pointless depending on your beliefs, but it's the truth.

God loves you and has compassion on you and your situation. I think what you are feeling is a lot of guilt as well as self loathing. For the guilt, God is the only perfect forgiver. He will forgive you in the most compassionate, loving, perfect way- just open up to him and ask for it. For the self loathing, everybody is pathetic in their attempt to make it through this life on their own with out God's perfect day to day guidance.

Don't compare yourselves to others and what they may appear to have going for them. Because without God everyone is lost and puts on a show to everyone around them like they have the answers. Some people are just really good at it.

Like many of the other answers above, you now have a chance to start over. If it comes up with anyone you know, be brave and admit your lies and continue to be honest. But you'll never be able to pull yourself out of this without perfect guidance from a perfect being.

If there is no god, than life everywhere is pathetic and pointless and your worries are ultimately meaningless just like everybody else. But beleive me, that's not the case- God cares about every worry big or small, that you have, just bring it to him.

Answer 3

People that really care about you are not going to car what kind of money you have or who you know. It will all be alright if you take a step back, and start trying to be comfortable in your own skin. There's nothing wrong with being yourself, with not having money, and not knowing celebrities. I'm sure there are many wonderful things about you that make you special.
We just had New Year's so make a fresh start for yourself. A clean slate! Good luck

Answer 4

What you were claiming as who and what you were before is irrelevant to who you are now.

Your depression has caused you to create a different 'you' that would hide the insecurities and unhappiness that you really feel about yourself. You have to stop creating this guilt about what you have done in the past because you are only hurting yourself on something that is already gone and is beyond your control - which is the past.

Look at what you have now. This present moment. What have you lost from the past? Your self-dignity? Self respect? But you are still here. There is nothing lost that you cannot gain for yourself again.

It is difficult to deal with the positives when you have depression. I know - believe me, I know. If you are dealing with chemical depression, which is lack of seratonin in your brain, then start with acknowledging about this part of yourself. Depression does not have to be EVERYTHING , don't let it become who you are. Don't let it become what you are. This depression is only a part of yourself that you have to deal with and you are doing this by taking your anti-depressants.

And then everything else is up to you. If you were poor before and still poor now, does this mean that you are always going to be poor for the rest of your life?

It's up to you.

Is knowing famous people really significant in the importance of who and what you are? It's up to you to answer the question. If you want to make it important, then this is only true for yourself, not everyone else. What matters to you may not matter to everyone else. But if you don't want this to matter, then let it go. Let your past go. What you told people or not told them in the past does not matter now. It's all gone. Don't let it matter to you anymore.

It's all up to you.

If you have been suffering from depression for a long time, have you stopped and wondered if you are addicted or in love with your depression? Don't be offended - this is actually true for many people. This included me. I would hold on to pain for a long time because it is the only thing that I had. Being in pain and letting other people see my pain gave me acknowledgment from others that I desired. If you look at other people suffering from depression, this would hold true for many if not all of them. If you are going to insist on holding on to your pain, then enjoy that pain. If it's the only thing that you have, then you may as well love it and enjoy it.

But if you have had enough. If you really have had enough, then let it go. Start by accepting the consequences of the past, then acknowledge the past as already gone. You have survived the past. It is no longer here. The only thing that remains with the past is your memories with it. Don't be a victim of your own memories.

Look at what you have now. You have you and this present moment. You are who you are and there is nothign that you can do to change that. What you are is only a part of who you are. What you are now is a person desiring for happiness and change.

Acknowledgment of the truth about yourself should only matter to you. If you know who you are, then that's all that matters. Who you are is a unique and separate individual. There is no amount of money or fame that can take away who you are.

Your life cannot possibly be a lie. You may have told a lie or been denied of a truth, but your life is still what it is. Your life is your existence in this world. If your life is a lie, then you would only be an illusion. But you are real. You are here. Regardless of the identity that you lived, claimed, or lost, you, the life that is you, is still here.

You are not a lie. You are an existence.

Live in the knowledge of your existence. You have learned your lessons. There's still a lot to be learn. Seek for experiences if you want to live. Your experiences are real, they are not a lie.

Live within yourself. You can only do this if you accept yourself. The lies are all irrelevant of your mere existence.

Answer 5

You are an adult child of an alcoholic, so find a meeting of others who grew up in alcoholic households (ACOA). "Adult children of alcoholics often lie when it would be just as easy to tell the truth." If you don't try ACOA meetings, try something! Zoloft isn't going to fix everything! This is a big issue that seeks a big solution.

Answer 6

your rich in personalitly the way you show it is completely up to you...

your friend and family play famous rolls in your life movie stars and those are famously fake people...

the list goes on till you let it stop ....


life is a lie i agree but what makes life real is stepping out of your house taking part in a community activity... something that gives back more then a check with oyur name on it... Try to force out your depression and let it back in as motivation to raise some thing good... built a bird house hang it up... re arrange your room or house... geto ut of the thought of sadness

be happy man.. life is to short to go around with your head in the ground...

~Quin.

Answer 7

hi

i wish i had something good to say to you, but im not really that person. sorry.

i havent been on this site in awhile and i only just popped on for a minute. youre question stuck out to me, and its the only one im answering tonight.

why? not because i think i can personally be of much help to you, but i feel for you, and i do like to try to be encouraging whenever i can. im gonna go to bed now, and ill keep you in my prayers, ok? in fact, im praying for you right now. i dont know if that means anything to you, but i thought you should know. its a big deal to me. (zoloft has nothing on Jesus :) )

i dont know you or anything about you other than what you just said but if you still want to talk to someone youre welcome to email me

i hope things turn up for you!

Answer 8

take en action and just stop, there's no turning back so now just pledge to your self that you will never lie ever again and just forget about the past, everyone made mistakes in there life. some worst then others, but at the end its just a mistake.

Answer 9

Simply view "life" simply.
Many of my friends who are notoriously "HAPPY" proclaim *the simplicities in life* as thier perception when posed to act either happy or sad.
%Instead of seeing the old lady wearing the torn, ragged outfit walking in the park, look at her smile and reflect that attitude in yourself.
Apply the wisdom of "it's much easier to catch bees with honey than vinegar."
Seek (again) simplicities for which to give thanks and DO IT...... Live an agressive-optimist attitude.
See the glass as 1/2 FULL.

Answer 10

dude your life sucks right now.
not to sound like an *ss.
but now you have a chance to start over.
be yourself.
you have a clean slate, and the only thing keeping you from true happiness is yourself.
if you want a happy moment, i suggest you get lit and watch Tommy Boy.
that works for me anyway...