I've never had an orgasm, is that normal?

Question

What ways have worked for you? How would you describe one?

Answer 1

If men aren't working, get a toy I promise it WILL work!

Answer 2

mkbrocato had it right. For some people, it is a lot easier for you to satisfy yourself than it is for your partner to satisfy you. This is especially true if you are not used to having an orgasm. You don't know what works and what doesn't do anything for you.

Once you get used to having them, by yourself, it will be much easier for you to have one with your partner.

Lets face it some lovers are A LOT better than others. Some also last A LOT longer. Some women can climax in less than one minute, others take closer to an hour. It is partly how our bodies respond, it is not necessarily a problem.

One friend of mine didn't have an orgasm by herself for the first 14 years of having sex. She divorsed her first husband partly because he couldn't give her an orgasm. He also was a total ***, a child molester, a cronic liar, and lazy. Those were his good points. She now has no problems having multiple orgasms, with the right partner. Don't give up hope.

Once you have had enough, by yourself, you will see how long you take. If you take 30 minutes and your lover only lasts 15, you need to work with them to make them last longer. Or finish yourself.

Another techniqe that can help is for you to self stimulate as you are having intercourse. That freeks out some lovers, but if they can't accept that, you need a different lover.

Describing it is difficult because it is different for each person. Sometimes it is different each time. It includes faster heartbeat and breathing, and not just from the workout. Sometimes it also has a feeling of losing control and thinking you are going to pass out.

Search "orgasm" here for many more discussions on this subject.

Answer 3

I know plenty of women who have never had an orgasm. I think its something that every woman has to work out over time. If you're young, then you may just need more time. However, do not confuse this with female sexual dysfunction. Sometimes diet changes, reducing stress, more exercise, and counseling can help underlying issues. Talk to a doctor or speak with a therapist.
If you haven't thought about getting a toy, I'd consider looking for one. Go to adamandeve.com not the best quality, but a good variety of starter toys so you can experiment without spending a ton. Once you find something that works, you can graduate to more expensive toys.

Answer 4

I started becoming sexual at 14 and didn't have my first one until four years later. Get a vibrator. That's how I achieved my first one. I find that an egg-shaped one is best for clitoral stimulation. It may take a while, especially if your PC (the ones used to stop the flow of urine) muscles are weak. To strengthen them, do Kegel exercises. Tighten the muscles and hold for 10 seconds before releasing. Do this ten times in a row three times a day (the best part is you can do them anywhere, and no one will know).

I don't really remember too much about my first one because it was so phyically taxing that I passed out, but every one I've had since then has been amazing. It feels like a release of built-up tension, and it's wonderful.

Answer 5

You need to get a book on orgasm for women so you can learn how to do it with a toy and feel it then when you are with your partner you can tell him how to help you have and truly a good orgasm is mostly mental its a mind thing you have to relax and when you do have one you will truly know its a rush like no other and don't feel bad most women don't have orgasm it takes patience but its worth it just think if you don't know your body how can you expect for someone else to know
GOOD LUCK

Answer 6

A lot of women don't orgasm through sexual intercourse. You have to be stimulated in the right spot to get an orgasm. I ALWAYS get an orgasm during oral sex though. Have you tried this? Oral sex will almost always give you an orgasm, if not everytime. It feels greattt, there's no way to really explain it, wait until you have one, theyre amazing lol! :) So I would suggest trying oral sex. Also, trying different sex positions may help you find your gspot better, and give you an orgasm. :)

Answer 7

It's just not fair, that a man is able to get off just about every time but for most females, it takes work! For myself, it takes self stimulation along with fantasy. I was hesitant to first use a vibrator {it felt unnatural} but I am glad I did.

Answer 8

I don't think it has anything to do with 'skill of lover'. It should be easier for you to achieve on your own. You can tell what's feeling good for you and what isn't. Don't sit around waiting for someone else to figure your body out for you.