When I looked at life, it seems like there is nothing out there for me. I don't even know what happiness is. I don't think I ever been happy in my life. Life feels empty. Life is either good nor bad. I'm neither sad nor happy. Can anyone relate? If you can't its okay. What I really need is some advice. I'm a 17 year old who is really confused.
2007-02-01 14:40:14 · 10 answers · asked by Tiffany 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You are looking at life the wrong way. The glass my only contain 50% water but it is still overflowing with air. You have so much, so many other things in life to look forward to. But, without the hard parts and the sorrows, the wonders of life will have no meaning. There can't be good without bad, the equation always balances.
Too many people are looking outside themselves for the joys of life. In reality, they are inside of you and you have the chance to make them wonderful. It is up to you. I didn't start off well and made lots of mistakes when I was your age. I had no idea where I was going either. A wise person had to repeat the very basic lesson about our choices to me many times before I got it. Guess I'm a slow learner.
Every negative in life has a positive side and every joy has a sorrow. Look around yourself, there is an amazing and beautiful world around you and it is waiting for you to become a part of it.
There are all sorts of things out there for you. There are places you've never been, friends you haven't met and loves you have yet to know. Go out and let them find you. All you have to do is make the choice to experience the joys of living. It really is a wonderful life.
2007-02-01 14:56:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am going to ask you to do something very difficult... that is to trust me. I am much older than you, although not so old that I cannot remember what a tough time being your age can be. You are in a transition period here. The whole world is about to break open for you. There are decisions in your life that are coming you will feel you are not prepared to make. Guess what! You are going to get through all of it! Will you make mistakes? Of course! Will you do some things so right, that you will remember them the rest of your life! Count on it! Find someone, a friend that you can talk to. Nourish this friendship and it will help to sustain you through this time. Good things are coming. Use your intelligence and trust yourself. Continue your education if you are able. If not through school then read and observe. The people here have given you good advice . I hope it will help you. If nothing else comes from this , remember you have total strangers rooting for you. Imagine what your friends and family might do to help.
Keep your head up! You're a winner!
2007-02-01 15:13:09 · answer #2 · answered by nostromobb 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At least you are neutral. I have been struggling with depression for a very long time now and a few years ago I tried to kill myself. I am much better now, but I am heavily medicated and I see my counselor on a regular basis.
I can no longer work due to other health problems, so that didn't help my depression any either. I ended up stuck at home most of the time and for a while there I was also ending up in the hospital for either one reason or another due to my immune system, which had gotten so low. Eventually, I sick of ending up in the hospital so often and being turned into a pin cushion, so I decided that I had to disobey my Doctor's orders to keep my legs elivated as much as possible and go to the health club three times a week to try and build up my immune system. I had to get a release from my Doctor before I was allowed to join the club and my Doctor said, "Now, I don't have to tell you to take it easy do I?", but it worked because I haven't been in the hospital for a year now and I have been more social now too.
I have also been thinking about hobbies now too. Although, one of them is going to be very difficult for me, because I just can't get around like I use to be able to and I just don't have the stamina for it. Back in the late 70's I was really into photography and had even made it as far as to being semi-pro, but then I had an accident that changed my life that left me disabled.
Have you considered seeking some counseling?
2007-02-01 15:16:35 · answer #3 · answered by JSalakar 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok... so I'm not 17 anymore... but I was once 17, so I too have been there ! Not to sure what the future holds ??? Not to sure about where you belong in life ??? Not really sure what you feel... kinda like you're just here and really don't have a plan or an idea of how to move ahead ??? It's just a part of the growing process... at least that is what everyone tells you right ??? Well cheer up, cause it is... it is normal to feel this way... and it is normal to have a lost feeling at your age ! I have a son who is 17 right now, and he is probably at that point himself right now, although he would never tell me ! He is without a doubt, the most stubborn person I know... reminds me of myself back then... What ever you feel, don't give up on happiness... it will surprise you and blindside you one day... you will be happy and you will know your purpose in life soon enough... trust me, it will happen ! Parents want you to fit into their ideas... and you kind of feel like a square peg being put into a round hole !
2007-02-01 15:01:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To me, you sound like a typical 17 year old female. It also sounds as if you are getting ready to make some kind of change, such as preparing for college, a new part time job, interest, or whatever.
It's perfectly normal to feel that way because you are at a crossroads...you're not a child anymore and you aren't a woman yet, so you can see the world around you with a different perspective than you did as a child. It could also be a hormonal thing, depending on where you are at in develop.
2007-02-01 14:50:56 · answer #5 · answered by cafegrrrl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 31, so I have been around the block a few more time and have seen a few more things, so I feel I can positively tell you with 100% confidence that your outlook has a lot to do with your age. You don't know who you are, what you want, and life generally sucks! BUT, hold on - life gets way better when you go off to college. I think most people would agree, no one would want to relive their HS years! Hold on, chica! It will get better - in the meantime, find something that interests you!
2007-02-01 14:56:26 · answer #6 · answered by TwinkaTee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really do need to go make your own happiness. Life isn't BAD for you, so you're not UNHAPPY. (Thank goodness you at least aren't whiny.) You need to find your niche. What kind of things are you interested in? If you're interested in art, study it, join some groups that are interested in it, too. If you're interested in music, get involved with musical groups. Meet people who share the same interests. Make good friends. Also understand that life is not always going to be wonderful and easy, and it's not always going to be hard and bad. Good and bad will come and go. That's how life works. Put some effort into BRINGING happiness into your own life, and it will reward you. Happiness doesn't just come to you on it's own.
2007-02-01 14:47:02 · answer #7 · answered by Jess H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am 17 years old too. and i felt the exact same way but you just have to look at the good things in life. Try to get a job to get you mind off of things thats what i did. i got happiness through many different ways through my family and even my job. When you have a job you are in control of what you do (except for your boss) but even just listening to good music and not that depressing stuff. Look at it this way. Your here your living and look at the good things. The sky i love the sky to watch the stars or the sun go down. If your here on earth why not make the best of it. Try to also have a goal to look forward to. Something you can accomplish. When you accomplish a goal you have for yourself it is the best feeling in the world Try it, it worked for me!
2007-02-01 14:56:01 · answer #8 · answered by Sandra Dee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to feel like you feel at your age, don't worry it will happen very soon.
Most of teenagers feel wired because of the amount of changes almost at the same time they are experimenting all the time being invades that way, but the good news is that is just a temporary thing.
Try to find something that makes ( or made ) you happy, stick to that memory while the storm calms down.
2007-02-01 14:47:58 · answer #9 · answered by Classy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should try finding friends talking to family members people ont he itnernet and opening up happyness is all around you you just have to find it. you might have a depression problem try a psychatrist...that could help
2007-02-01 14:51:11 · answer #10 · answered by dreamergirl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋