I married at 16 and had a baby. Now I live with my inlaws, go to college, have a part time job and a life I am not happy with. My husband goes out and smokes pot every night. I want to leave but I am scared and I still love him. On top of all that, I like my best friends ex guy who loves my son and have his own place and a fultime career. What do I do?
2007-02-01 14:38:44 · 15 answers · asked by noname 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to think about you and your baby, your husband isn't stable. If you have a good relationship w/your inlaws you should stick it threw and try to make a life for your baby, he's an innocent being who depends on you.
2007-02-01 14:44:02 · answer #1 · answered by ♦♥maybelle♦♥ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Slow down first. You have a child to think about too. First off, Move back home with your parents. Your child needs a stable environment to live in. Second, NEVER date friends Ex's, that is only looking for trouble and the loss of a friend (and it makes you look like you only looking for another place to stay with the comment about he has his own place) You have made some bad mistakes, but you are also working on making things right (College) DO NOT make it worse. Put relationships on the back burner for now, and concentrate on school, it will be better in the long run for you and your child.
2007-02-01 14:45:45 · answer #2 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to pray before you do anything. The next thing is you have to tell your husband to choose between you and your child or his ways. The reason why you feel that you are unhappy is because you married youngbut be strong and you can do it. if you have to divorce him to better your life then do so but know that it will be hard out there on your own. but dont just go to the friend because you are unhappy right now and your emotions are into him because you are being neglected by your husband and stuff. But just think things through and weigh out the pros and cons of the relationship but do not stay anywhere where you are not happy and are not loved. Good luck and God bless
2007-02-01 16:01:04 · answer #3 · answered by finderofthering 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes very complicated...
you are among the top 10% of the wealthiest people in the world if you have hot water and a flushing toilet.
you have found love in a time that is so hard for so many.
your husband is not a junkie or an alcoholic or a tweaker.
you are in college seeking to better yourself.
you have not dropped out yet showing a good work ethic.
you live with your inlaws something that for me would be impossible, showing a patient spirit.
you have a beautiful son.
...why again are you unhappy??
2007-02-01 14:45:32 · answer #4 · answered by spoonman 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you're not happy make a change. It's not good for your son to grow up around an unhappy parent. But make sure you have a stable environment for your kid first.
2007-02-01 15:24:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to your husband,if he dont stop smoking pot and your so unhappy.then divorce him and find someone else.a lot of times if are partner does something we hate we end up falling out of love,and your so young.also tell your husband that he has to grow up now,you have a baby now,
2007-02-01 14:46:28 · answer #6 · answered by bassetluv 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get your own life together before you start eyeballing some other dude...if you are unhappy, leave...but don't jump from one dead end relationship to another or the outcome will always be the same.
2007-02-01 14:45:46 · answer #7 · answered by єЖтяα ¢яιѕρψ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your husband how much you love him and tell him all about how drugs can ruin everything.
Try to get him to counsling.
Get family to help take care of baby.
If your husband starts being a total *** you should leave him.
Save your own money secretly just in case you want to leave short notice.
Then get aqquainted with that other guy.
2007-02-01 14:44:56 · answer #8 · answered by susan 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You need to follow your heart and do what is right for YOU and everything else will fall into place BUT make sure you really know what you are thinking because you also don't want to regret what you chose to do. Good luck!!
Mary
2007-02-01 14:43:32 · answer #9 · answered by maryannmccarthy2003 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sure, its easy for a lady to move on because she's unhappy and wants somebody else. I asked a similar question and all the ladies instead of telling me to go for it, told me that I should be smacked and that I don't deserver her, and that I need counselling.
So how's that for a double standard?
2007-02-01 14:45:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋