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Question

what is the best way to tell someone that you need to talk to them about something that's important concerning the two of you

Conditions between you and the person:
1)you weren't exactly the best of friends
2)talking to them makes you a little angry

Only answer this question if you have life experience please...
but of course, people are going to do whatever they want anyway.

Answer 1

Say talking to you makes me a little angry sometimes. I need to tell you something important.

Use the W.I.N. therory. it works, I've used it.

W - "what" - explain what the problem is
I - "I feel" - explain how you feel (nervous, angry, sad)
N - "need" - explain what you need.

Example: John, when you come into my personal space, I feel nervous. What I need you to do is keep your distance.

Result: He literally took 2 steps back, apologized and thanked me for telling him how I felt. Never happened again.

Example: I know we aren't the best of friends, but I need to talk to you. When you ___________(details of your situation - breif) It makes me feel __________. What I need is __________

If you think about "what" the problem is, "how" it makes you feel, and what you "need" to fix it, solving problems is much easier.

Contain your anger because you have something more important to talk about. Getting angry will confuse the conversation.

Answer 2

U should just go to this person and tell them, " Regardless of the differences we may have had in the past or present. I think we need to have a serious mature talk. Just the 2 of us." Now when u do that it's up 2 that person whether they're going 2 b mature about the situation or not. At least u know that u did ur part in showing respect. So no guilty conscience for u!

Answer 3

First, tell yourself your going to keep your cool no matter what, and stick to the facts. Also urge the other person to do the same before you enter into the conversation.
It would probably help if it was done over lunch, so both parties can be at ease somewhat. Keep it short, sweet, and professional.

Answer 4

ask some one else to be there at the time a, mutual friend or an adult They don't have to be directly in the same place but nearby if u need them..compromise on the meeting time & place so it is fair for both.

Answer 5

Get a mediator

Answer 6

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