have an alcoholic as a family member??
How has it effected your life??
2007-02-01 14:35:39 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Yes, I have a family member who is an alcoholic. He still is and will never stop. It has affected my life because I never got to bond with him. He is my father. I never got to have a father ~ daughter relationship with him. Which really sucks because I feel like I missed out on a lot with my father. I am the one explaining to my children now why can't they see grandpa and where does he live? How do you explain to them until they are old enough to understand that grandpa lives with his parents or in jail.? The easiest way for me to explain to my children is that their grandfather lives in different places and he's hard to find. What really makes it hard is when your father hurt your own mother too and you when you were little. So, yes, it has affected my life and it still does at times. You just have to pray and forgive and hope that one day he will wake up and realize what he is doing has messed up his life... Before it's too late and he's passed away. It has been a turnoff for me to have an alcoholic in my life. Social drinking is ok, being drunk is another story.
2007-02-01 14:43:29 · answer #1 · answered by tigress4utonite 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My childhood was unstable because of an alcoholic step- father. I was always in fear of what he was going to do next, including using his 30-30 rifle as he called it that hung on the wall outside my bedroom. I was about the age of 17 when I decided I was not going to take anymore crap from a drunk or let one knock my mother around anymore. I stood up to a 200+ lb. drunk when he went after my Mom and said he wasn't going to touch her anymore. I told him if he did I was fighting back and he would have to kill me before I would quit. Fortunately for me it turned out he was a coward to anyone who stood up to him. It made me a stronger person and I have no tolerance for drunks today. Shortly after he requested the divorce. It was the best thing that could of happened to my Mom. My Mother came from a family that believed you stay married no matter what, unless her children were in danger. She was a hard working woman who in truth supported the family with her income, his was spent in the bars. I would not want another child to experience the fear I had been through.
2007-02-01 23:05:10 · answer #2 · answered by JAN 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My father was an active alcoholic even when I was a small child till his death. My first husband was, my second husband was, my grandfather was....... I've been around it a lot. My child hood did effect me, but I worked through that. Also had to work through my own addiction. I've been clean 15 years. Life is good.
2007-02-01 22:44:47 · answer #3 · answered by Cara Beth 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just fyi--it is "affected." If something "affects" you, it has an "effect."
Not being a smarty pants, just letting you know the difference between the two words.
To answer the question, I do know someone who drinks a lot of beer and says it is okay, but I never know if that is okay or not. If the person isn't stinking drunk, does that make it okay? So I always have the question in the back of my mind.
Other than that, it hasn't affected me.
2007-02-01 22:43:10 · answer #4 · answered by kristen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father was an alcoholic, I was also told that both my grandfathers were also. Besides having a messed up childhood I believe that I turned out just fine. When I drink I don't let it go to far in fear of what just might happen.
2007-02-01 22:38:43 · answer #5 · answered by J F 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have twin brothers who are both alcoholics. I use to feel bad and would stick up for them but I just can't do it anymore. I have watched them both piss their lives away, I don't know what else to do for them or even know what to say to them. They both have lost their families, all because of drinking. I can't help but think if they don't care why should I?
2007-02-01 22:40:19 · answer #6 · answered by The Pig! 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My mom. I don't let her have my kids because one Thanksgiving I had to work and she was at a family function, got drunk of course, and the only reason my kids weren't in the car that night is because my brother stopped it from happening. It sucks for my kids that they can't hang out with their grandma more and it sucks for her because she can't ever have them for the night. My kids are 5 and 7 now and don't really know her that well since she lives far away from us.
2007-02-01 22:40:05 · answer #7 · answered by lisa h 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My Grandmother was an alcoholic. The woman was a recluse. Very sad.
2007-02-01 22:38:20 · answer #8 · answered by Mommymonster 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Fortunately, the members of my family that are alcoholics are "happy drunks". I had a happy childhood. Full of laughter. And drunk people. lol.
2007-02-01 22:38:22 · answer #9 · answered by Debi in LA 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my mother's bf is an alcoholic.
i don't talk to my mother anymore because she won't get rid of him. she kicked out all my siblings ( i left before it got to that point ) including my 14 year old sister who is moving back in with my dad (who lives 14 hours away) the day before my birthday.
2007-02-01 22:40:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋