I've married to a Virgo wife for more than 10 years now and we just could'nt stop fighting although now we have three kids. Shall I divorce her?
2007-02-01 14:28:27 · 12 answers · asked by Joe Z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Aries & Virgo
When Aries and Virgo come together in a love match, they may think at first that they have nothing in common and nothing to learn from one another. This relationship takes time to develop as each partner must learn to understand where the other is coming from. Aries and Virgo can seem like total opposites: While Aries is brash, dominant and aggressive, always jumping into new things and almost always impatient, Virgo is detail-oriented and quiet, even shy, and works patiently toward long-term goals. Aries's energy is fiery and impetuous while Virgo's is much slower and more grounded. It's these very differences, however, that can teach Aries and Virgo so much, once they just look beneath one another's surfaces to see what lies beneath.
Early in the relationship, Aries and Virgo may see nothing but one another's faults. Virgo thinks Aries is way too brash, and Aries thinks Virgo is extremely fussy. But if they focus on one another's strengths instead, they'll discover a great deal. Aries teaches Virgo about fun and excitement, about the spontaneity that is often missing in Virgo's life. Virgo teaches Aries patience and attention to detail, the knowledge that the little things -- and moments -- are important too. Aries can teach their Virgo lover to take things less seriously. Virgo can teach Aries to be polite and value hard work.
Aries is ruled by the Planet Mars and Virgo is ruled by the Planet Mercury. Aries wants to rush out and fight without wasting time preplanning or strategizing. Conversely, Virgo wants to analyze everything and work out all the details before acting. These are such opposite approaches that strife can result. Both Signs must make a conscious effort to learn from one another's method rather than letting their partner's natural rhythm bother to the point of distraction.
Aries is a Fire Sign and Virgo is an Earth Sign. Where Aries is all fiery impetuosity, Virgo is grounded practicality. Virgo weighs all the options before devoting any serious effort, while Aries simply sees what they want and dives in! This is true both in career and in personal relationships -- which can be something of a stumbling block. If Aries has decided it's Virgo they want, they might be frustrated for some time to come, waiting for Virgo to make up their mind about whether the relationship is a good idea.
Aries is a Cardinal Sign and Virgo is a Mutable Sign. Virgo doesn't need to be the leader or the boss; they're glad to follow another's suggestion once they decide it's a viable one. Aries, on the other hand, wants to make those suggestions -- every time. This is a beneficial dynamic if these two Signs are working as a team toward a common goal.
What's the best aspect of the Aries-Virgo relationship? Their great effectiveness as a team -- business or personal. Their personalities, opposite in so many ways, make for a highly complementary relationship.
2007-02-01 14:31:31 · answer #1 · answered by Jewels 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How Ironic. I am a virgo who married an aries 10 years ago and I am friggin miserable. I am convinced divorce is my ticket to being happy again, as I have not been in about 5 years
2007-02-01 22:49:16 · answer #2 · answered by skkydreemer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Check Yahoo! Horoscopes, this should tell u whether u are compatible if u take the Compatibility test located at the top middle of the screen in a click-able word icon. Find your strengths and weaknesses and try to work out the differences. Avoid divorce if possible. It is especially hard on the kids who love you very much I'm sure.
2007-02-01 22:32:01 · answer #3 · answered by Isabela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have tendency to be selfish in an unthinking way, kind of like a child is selfish. She will be critical of all the little defects in you and the relationship. So, you need to be more giving and generous of things, and she needs to stop being a fussbudget and nag
Ten years is a lot of time to put into a relationship. Don't give up just yet.
If you are really into astrology, have your synastry charts done to see how you can work on the relationship to make it better and where the challenges are.
Good luck
2007-02-01 23:02:28 · answer #4 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well part of every marriage is gonna be fighting. There is no easy ride. But If you work thru the hard fighting times and fight for your marriage IT will be worth it in the end.
Good luck
2007-02-01 22:42:41 · answer #5 · answered by xxgq 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I once heard that those two combos don't work, but I'm not sure if you're really taking the horoscope thing seriously. Marriage counseling perhaps?
2007-02-01 22:31:50 · answer #6 · answered by starz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think astrology has little to do with it, first of all
Secondly, you will know when it is time to leave when you feel nothing...neither love nor hate. Indifference is the only sound way out.
2007-02-01 22:49:57 · answer #7 · answered by єЖтяα ¢яιѕρψ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No... if you've made it 10 years try for 10 more. Counseling however may make it easier.
2007-02-01 22:31:41 · answer #8 · answered by mayhem 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Magic 8 is right. When you feelings for her are dead so is the marriage. What exactly do you feel?
2007-02-01 23:24:27 · answer #9 · answered by Max Power 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what have you done to her. I am a Virgo.
2007-02-01 22:32:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋