now how easy will it be to obtain a divorce? and how much ?if he doesnt get help for his temper of course, ill have to divorce him and god knows i wish this wasn't the case.but i don't want to end up 6ft under
2007-02-01 14:21:43 · 19 answers · asked by sassy06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
go and watch enough, then call ur lawyer.........................then vote me best answer
2007-02-01 14:24:52 · answer #1 · answered by uncrowned ruler 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Right now the most important thing to do is gather all of your important papers and put them somewhere safe, in a big plasitic bag. Keep them at a friends if needed. Call your local crisis center, woman's shelter and ask for help. They can give you temporary shelter sometimes. Your phone book should have a listing or call the police and they will give you the number. Tell someone what has been going on. Make a plan for your safety, and that of you children if there are any, that includes finding the right time to leave unnoticed. Give yourself time to find shelter before he will notice you are gone. Once you are in a safe place the crisis centers can help you get a relief from abuse order, or papers to file for divorce. It is important to get out soon, if you are feeling like you will be 6 feet under. I have done this and it is hard but you deserve better. Take care and stay safe. Call the police and crisis centers today.
2007-02-02 16:18:36 · answer #2 · answered by Kathleen B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is a relationship you and your husband want to salvage - you should try counceling,and he should go to anger managment. If he's not willing then its time to say goodbye.
You might be able to get a free divorce.I did.
Every state has different rules etc, but I went to the court house and went into the family court part and asked for a divorce packet for uncontested divorce. I filled it out,and filed for poor mans status,and it was all granted.
I was making over $10 an hour at the time too.
hope this helps,but seriously if hes not willing to work at things then you need to move on.
2007-02-01 22:29:55 · answer #3 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look under "legal aide" in your phone book. You may qualify for assistance. Also know that even if you file he may be ordered to pay part or all by the judge. Many lawyers will take your case and let you pay their fee out of any money ordered paid to you by hour husband. Don't let money stop you from being safe. Leave him even of you can't afford to make it legal right now. If he is abusive, also try your local women's shelter or domestic abuse hot line. They often can make referrals to attys who will do divorce work at a discount.
2007-02-01 23:07:36 · answer #4 · answered by Ande 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorces can be quite expensive but if you look you'll find an attorney that will let you pay the filing and restraining order fee ($200.00 give or take a bit, depending on your area) and make him pay the rest. As far as getting one their pretty easy and in most cases fairly quick, my was anyway, but that was awhile back. Just call some different attorneys in your area and they'll usually give you a free consultation and let you know what your in for. GOOD LUCK
2007-02-01 22:29:20 · answer #5 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Sassy, If you call the violence against women line they can help you by giving you some numbers to call that will help you in working out what you can afford, If you are serious about getting a divorce than leave now while you can, others wise it could make him go over the edge.
2007-02-01 22:28:21 · answer #6 · answered by xxmysticbutterflyxx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the first step is to leave him! get out of the house your sharing with him. if you have family or friends you can stay with you should talk to them. And if you cant turn to family and friends there are help groups out there for women. When i needed to leave my abusive ex i called a women's center that i found in the yellow pages. they helped me get out and put me in a safe house for a few days till i could get air fair to fly home to family. That is not as bad as some would think. But staying there and asking around about divorce is almost asking for trouble if he finds out and gets mad are you safe? if not then think about where your at and what you need to do next. as for lawyers there are agencies in most states that will do a free divorce if your income is low or have no income. again look in the phone book or online for gov help.
My suggestion is get out as soon as you can. Good luck and be safe.
2007-02-02 02:10:01 · answer #7 · answered by survivedlasvegas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went through it. if you can find the right lawyer it shouldnt cost you a thing. it also depends on how much in monetary value you want to take with you (car, house, kids etc) . just remember your life is priceless and all of the material things can be replaced but you cannot be. violent men also tend to get vindictive when you try to take money and things, so if you want out and dont want repurcussions dont take anything but your clothes and yourself. (kids of course if there are any) Look for legal aid places, and a female lawyer is always good for these issues. he almost killed me twice and i know all the tricks about getting far far far away with no trace. if you need anything just email me. we are all here for you!
2007-02-01 22:30:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married to a violent man & divorced him. In Wisconsin, he had to pay for all the legal fees because he made more than I did.
2007-02-01 22:36:16 · answer #9 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you can not let a guy treat you like that. You need to get a divorce, or call a help line. There are lots of things to do, but you are disrespecting yourself if you let him treat you like that. Plz help yourself and call some one!
Hope this helps! :)
2007-02-01 22:25:57 · answer #10 · answered by iloveyou<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are too many variables here for an answer. Find an attorney. Ask around and get references, look in the yellow pages.
2007-02-01 22:29:37 · answer #11 · answered by cajunsma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋