help my friend please bad problem?

Question

my friend messes around with guys and cries to me how their bad to her and she is becoming bulimic and has the LOWEST self esteem ever.i want to help but i have no idea what to do !!!!!!!!!!!

she has depression i know for she is diagnosed i think

Answer 1

She needs to be told that she is worth much more than that. That negative attention is not better than none. She needs to be reminded of the accomplishments in her life even if they are small ones. Have her talk to someone who can get her help. Meanwhile, help her by leading her back to being healthy. Keep an eye on her. Have her write down things she is grateful for. Get her out walks/coffee. Don't let her give up on her self. She has a lot of work to do. Those guys are nothing but bullies and have low self esteem too. If they can't get a girl by being real and nice, they aren't worth it. If she is depressed she does need out side help. Maybe even a domestic violence class. She may not be violent but she will learn about these verbally/emotional abusive guys and why they are that way. It's not because she is not pretty or skinny enough. Love is hard work, not sacrificing to that extreme, to the body. She might also need to feel needed. Some ideas-opinion-own experience. Hope your friend gets through this.

Answer 2

Red flags and bells should be ringing in your head right now. YOUR FRIEND NEEDS HELP NOW!! The best thing you can do for her is get her the help that she needs. You need to tell someone, even if she tells you not to. It's for her own good. Does she go to your school? Talk with your school guidance counselor. If not, tell your parents or her parents. Bulimia is a very serious condition & people who have it definitely need to seek medical attention. Also, low self esteem is another serious problem...& it could be a result from depression.

I know, it might be hard to tell someone about your friend's problem but you really need to. She may be angry with you and think that you broke her trust, but in the end she'll be thanking you. Your friend is lucky she has a good, caring friend like yourself.

The next time your friend talks to you about this why don't you say to her, "I am really concerned about you. I love you so much, and I don't want to see you hurt youself anymore. Let's get you some help, ok?". If she says no, it's going to be hard but you're going to have to anyway and at least you warned her gently.

Best of luck.

Answer 3

if u have friends whom she's unfamiliar with and r good introduce them to her so that she has lot of friends and she don't need look for a guy. keep her busy with urself and then try to talk to her about it so that i dosn't happen again

Answer 4

tell someone who can get her to stop. parent? therapist? close family member? or... tell her that she's scaring you and why. maybe she just needs a reality check.