i am not a very social person. i hate going out with my friends so i always cancel on them and they get mad. GOD why can't they just leave me alone. isn't 7 hours of school a day enough hanging out???
2007-02-01 14:05:41 · 10 answers · asked by snowangels 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You need to tell your friends just how you feel, with hurting there feelings. You may need them one day.
2007-02-01 14:09:58 · answer #1 · answered by spookieone48 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my! First, I think you just need to tell your friends that you appreciate their friendship, but that you are tired after school, and you just need some time for yourself. I was never a very social person either when I was in school. There is nothing wrong with that. If you don't enjoy hanging out in public places, could a friend or two come to your house and hang out with you there? If not, perhaps agreeing to hang out with them one day a week for a couple hours or so would be enough to show them that you value your friendship and time with them, but would allow you time to yourself as well. If they are true friends, they will respect that. We all have our own needs when it comes to friendships. Some of my friends through the years have been very needy and clingy, always seeming to need and want something from me, and that would drive me crazy. Others have been friends I didn't see that often, but when I did see them, our time together was pleasant and fun. It's okay to define your boundaries and personal space to your friends. They shouldn't pressure you or make you feel guilty in any way. Likewise, a person can never have too many friends, and if someone likes you enough to want to spend time with you, they are telling you that you mean enough to them to make spending time with you worthwhile. Hope it all works out.
P.S. - I think what you are describing is common. My son has friends that he has known from living in other cities. He is close to his friends, but he gets tired of them always sending him messages on his MySpace account, asking him where he's been because he doesn't log on as much as they do and they miss him. It drives him nuts. He just tells them that he is busy and that it bothers him to be expected to be here or there all the time by other people. It works for him. You have to find what works for you. I wish you luck.
2007-02-01 14:17:23 · answer #2 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you hate hanging out with your friends maybe you need new and fresh friends. A good way to do that is meeting a cousin or a friend of one of your friend who goes to another school or college or whatever. Meeting people from otherr schools is exciting and I don't think there is such a thing as social and not social. If you don't feel social when you meet someone then maybe just forget about that person.
2007-02-01 14:10:38 · answer #3 · answered by Gilles 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm in a similar boat. i have extremely been scuffling with overwhelming loneliness. i ultimately talked to a therapist for the first time very last week and some close friends and sense that issues ought to take a turn for the better effective. Is there everybody or any provider you ought to verify with?
2016-12-03 08:27:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, friends are crazy..
they do silly things..
I like hanging out with my friends..
Maybe they just want you to be with them and spend some quality time together.
But if you really hate it, then talk to them.. They'll understand..
trust me..
2007-02-01 14:17:43 · answer #5 · answered by aNne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey! That's funny because I thought I was the only one who felt that same way.
Where you don't want to hurt their feeling you just want some peace to yourself.
Or when they give buzzing you when on MSN!
"Ya Wanta Be My Friend?"
Tell them, "Just don't go away mad just go away"
2007-02-01 14:12:21 · answer #6 · answered by Bluelady... 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
2 possible reasons
!- you have a real psycological problem
2-u don't have real friends to go out with so you repleace that with some people 4m school
2007-02-01 14:09:43 · answer #7 · answered by Cupcake Flavor Soda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they were your real friends they wouldn't pressure you into doing anything you don't want to do. Be bold and tell them "no!" straight to their faces.
2007-02-01 14:09:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you must be an introvert........i used to have friends who drained me emotionally or mentally so alot of the time i just preferred to be alone....you are the one you have to live with in the end...
2007-02-01 14:08:49 · answer #9 · answered by bertha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell them the truth...you know sometimes the truth hurts
2007-02-01 14:11:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋