recently i got really drunk and his bestfriend was over ,and while my boyfrind was asleep me and his friend kinda made out,i stopped it before we even got our cloths off/he found out and left me for it,how can i get him to forgive and trust me agian,he already forgave his friend,is that fair?
2007-02-01 14:00:39 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
busted.....get over it and move on....oh and u didnt forgive him this was revenge
2007-02-01 14:04:44 · answer #1 · answered by gluckstadt_randy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your forgiving him has nothing to do with him not forgiving you. I agree with a previous answer - being drunk is no excuse. Are you sure this wasn't a revenge thing?
The fact that it was his best friend probably has a lot to do with it. You're his girlfriend, shouldn't he be able to trust you around his friends? Blame is shared between you and the friend - you were committed to this man, the friend wasn't. Though there should have been some respect/honor on the friend's part towards your boyfriend too. You can't get him to love and forgive you. If you want a shot, make an effort to show him you've changed, but be prepared for him to say no way. A lot of people expect to be forgiven if they cheat, but can't be the one to forgive if the situation is reversed.
And he may have forgiven his friend, but he will never forget it, and he'll never trust him near a girlfriend again.
2007-02-01 15:28:17 · answer #2 · answered by ~StepfordWife~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, 1st off, only YOU know if you completely forgave him. I don't have enough info here to make a call.
If you were doing that to get even, I don't think that was cool. I know what you're response is to that..."well, I was drunk, I didn't know what I was doing" sorry. I don't buy that. HONESTLY think about it. If that was your dad, would you be making out with him? Of course not...you KNOW what you were doing.
So, even IF you forgave him, why does HE have to forgive YOU? Everyone is different, and it's not tit for tat.
About the friend, well it is you and your boyfriend that owe each other loyalty, not the friend...although what he did was NOT cool.
It sounds like your relationship is in the tubes anyway, I would suggest you both learn from your mistakes, go your seperate ways, and try fresh.
Good luck.
2007-02-01 14:09:44 · answer #3 · answered by Voice_Of_Reason 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably wanted an excuse to break up.He might have even set it up.If he cheated on you and you forgave him and he's not welling to do that for you then he is not worth your time or energy.No one can give you what hey don't need! I wouldn't even try to get him back.You need to move on.This is what you say to him and say it mean."I forgave you for what you did and if your not welling to do that for me then that is my answer.You never loved me like I loved you.Then tell him your not worth my time or energy.That will get to him.He probably just wants to make you suffer more.If he truly loves you then he will come to you.After you call him and say that to him then hang up and do not call him at all.Let him come to you.In the mean time go out with friends and keep yourself occupied.Don't give in and I know this will be hard but you must do it.He's just wanting control of the situation.You have to get the control back.Turn the tables.He won't be expecting it.He wants you to beg some more that's all.
Good Luck!!
2007-02-01 18:13:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he particularly enjoyed you, he might have advised you appropriate after. there is not any evaluate giving a one way cost tag to doing it returned? I comprehend in case you took him decrease back ifor he might havery advised you. That basically proves he might have greater beneficial than possibly concealed that from you and in no way advised you. I cheated on a dare with my boyfriend for the period of our 6th moth and it develop into an honest mistake. appropriate afterwards I called him and advised him to fulfill me...we met and that i advised him. anybody can cry...yet ultimately I had the decency to confess to my mistake and study? He did no longer study anthing...you particularly enable him think of it develop into ok. i've got been with my boyfriend for 2 years now and that i like him and could in no way harm him like that returned. perhaps that is time he learns and not in basic terms gets each little thing decrease back.
2016-11-02 02:33:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not force anyone to forgive you, let alone forget.
Be more faithful with your next bf.
2007-02-01 14:21:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your b/f is a jerk. Instead of cherishing you for forgiving him, he acts like he never cheated and this is all your fault. Let him go, he has alot to learn.
2007-02-01 14:21:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would break up with him(act like it's his fault)Give some bullcrap reason!! If you tell him HE WILL NEVER FORGIVE YOU.No matter what they say,Women are forgiving,and men are children and will bring it up EVERY time you have a fight.They are babies!And you can do better than him!
2007-02-01 14:08:50 · answer #8 · answered by ~fUnKyCoLdMeDiNa~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
2 wrongs don't make a right. You two need to have a serious talk.
2007-02-01 14:36:54 · answer #9 · answered by nuttin'fancy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you can force him to do anything, pray for him, prayer opens the door for God to work in our lives....Jesus loves you
2007-02-01 14:06:15 · answer #10 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just for him being an a ss i would go back and finish the job with his bestfriend
2007-02-01 14:49:39 · answer #11 · answered by can u ♥ moi? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋