Friend problem please help me?

Question

It seems like everyone wants sometihng from me. My friends all complain about how bad their lives are, whats going on in their lives but I have my own problems. I love to help my friendsbut they dont take my advice and they always are complaining. I ahve a life and a boyfriend who I need to take care of. What should i do about my friedns. Thanks in advance for your help.

Answer 1

Make one day a week for all of you and your friends to hang out and discuss your problems and issues. This should probably take place at a local diner or house but not at a night club or party. Go over life issues and whats going on. Also, Tell your friends that you have a life too and they cant take it from you! Make about a three day schedule for you and your boyfriend because right now he seems really important to you. If your friends denie that they are acting this way then they probably arn't very good friends and yes they DO want something from you. Tell them you dont like how they are acting and its imature. If they dont like this then wait a couple weeks for it all to blow off and Im sure things will be back to normal! Love,
Girl

Answer 2

> > THIS SAYS IT ALL:
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> > Time passes.
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> > Life happens.
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> > Distance separates.
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> > Children grow up.
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> > Jobs come and go.
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> > Love waxes and wanes.
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> > People don't do what they're supposed to do.
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> > Hearts break.
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> > Parents die.
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> > Colleagues forget favors.
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> > Careers end.
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> > BUT.........
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> > Friends are there, no matter how much time and how
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> > many miles are between you. A girl friend is never farther away
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> > than needing her can reach.
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> > When you have to walk that lonesome valley and you
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> > have to walk it by yourself, the women in your life
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> > will be on the valley's rim, cheering you on,
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> > praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on
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> > your behalf, and waiting with open arms at the
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> > valley's end.
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> > Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk
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> > beside you...Or come in and carry you out.
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> > Girlfriends, daughters, granddaughters,
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> > daughters-in-law, sisters, sisters-in-law, Mothers,
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> > Grandmothers, aunties, nieces, cousins, and extended
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> > family, all bless our life!
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> > The world wouldn't be the same without women, and
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> > neither would I. When we began this adventure called
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> > womanhood, we had no idea of the incredible joys or
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> > sorrows that lay ahead. Nor did we know how much we
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> > would need each other.

Answer 3

Dear, friends are important "yes" but nevertheless "you" and yourself or your own life is much > important, you know?? Voice it out to them, tells them politely that "each one has individual problems, so do me, I do likes to help IF I could BUT most of it all each HAS to face up with individual problems themselves strongly.Please allows me some space, thanks" Me thinks that would fixed them easily the polite way.. Hopes me HAD helps you IF not a lot at least a little.. Be Strong Girl, You HAVE your own life to handle and copes up with! May GOD Bless You Always! Take Great Good Care Of Yourself!

Yours Honestly,
Winny ~ u know me care (JM)

Answer 4

Everyone has their own life, remember that! I am in the same situation right now. Just live your life and do your best to be there for your friends but if you start to see that they're not there for you, forget them. There are too many bad people in this world. Sometimes you need to be selfish, its for your own good! Good luck with life.

Answer 5

We all need someone to talk to about our problems at one time or another. I think that is what is happening with your friends. You must be regarded as a good listener, or a shoulder to cry on.
That doesn't necessarily mean that anybody expects you to solve all of the problems that get presented to you by these people.

When people come to you with their problems, it's fair enough that when you give them feedback that it would include your idea(s) of what they should do. But that doesn't mean that they should substitute their own judgement with yours.

When I offer my opinion to someone who seeks my council, I realise that he/she is going to weigh what I have to say, & blend it with their own knowledge of the situation, & decide what is best for them. If they don't want to pay attention to my infinite wisdom that is their responsibility, not mine.

Answer 6

People you don't want to help or want to space yourself from ... they are not really your friends, are they? I mean, you sound like you really don't care that much? That's ok, I mean, you can't care equally much about everyone, but you need to admit that to yourself ... let more of their calls go to voicemail and more of their emails go unanswered ... over time the distance you seek will be created and they'll stop pestering you.

Answer 7

Honestly, you need to tell them how you feel about the situtation. How your always there for them and then they never take your advise. I would tell them then whats the point in coming to me for help if all your going to do is the total opposite. Hope it helped!!!!

Answer 8

I think you should evaluate who are your friends and who are you mental patients.Don't think 2 much about it and complaig about your own problems once in a while.And about your mental patients the doctor can close the office when he pleases.

Answer 9

If they're that needy, why do you put up with it ??? They aren't really friends if it's that one sided. Needy just gets needier if you feed into it and it sounds like you do, so stop. Find new friends.

Answer 10

When they tell you about it.
Tell them that your busy right now and you will have to look over there case at you fist convenience