Why not just be honest with the person when sober instead of dependency on a substance? I know I would hate it if that's how I initiated a long-term relationship. It is kind of funny, but I don't see the glamor in it. I suppose each his/her own.
2007-02-01 13:40:57 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I don't mean offense by this question. I have many friends who drink and don't think less of them. I understand it makes people feel more accepted or able to be more outgoing. I guess everyone has a different scene which makes them more outgoing. What works for one person doesn't work for everyone. :)
2007-02-01 15:32:04 · update #1
Well I am sure that you already know,but thats how I met Jen. It's also my first chick relationship. I was all buzzed up hangin out with my friends at a little bar and there she was. Me being buzzed I had more courage to do and say the things I had only been thinking about. It wasn't intentional,it just happened that way. I have a lot of weakness'es and drinking made me open up. I am always honest with her,but now when I drink we argue so much! I know it's sad,but not everyone is as brave as they want to be. Somehow this lets us vent our feelings and thoughts without hesitation. It's sad but true. I don't encourage drinking to anyone though. Good question!
2007-02-01 14:18:34 · answer #1 · answered by sexygal8321 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Exactly what you said at the beginning of your questions. Having a couple of drinks can lower your inhibitions & help you to overcome any insecurities you have about proceeding. Some don't need anything artificial to lower their inhibitions, but others might need that slight kick that alcohol can give. To many it's more of a way of conquering their initial fears rather than a true dependency (and if it resulted in a long-term relationship, there must have been a good reason to have taken a bolder approach). While not necessarily "glamorous" it can help some people become less self-conscious. One should feel less of a need to imbibe after a short time, being more confident around the other person -if that's not the case, then I might consider calling it a dependency.
2007-02-01 22:02:53 · answer #2 · answered by Dragon 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, let's see... my reclusive mother taught me to be afraid of everyone, but not drink...
and I barely do...
and I come to find out, after years of isolated semit-torture perforated with some sober but great times,
that many people are jealous of this old nerd for being able to dance like nobody's business on zero to one drink, and talk to as many people as I do.
Meanwhile, I'm so outgoing becuase of my damned nerves!
It's a twisted world it is...
but I'm with you.
Too bad most people aren't as courageous as we are.
2007-02-01 21:47:13 · answer #3 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well if it helps it helps...anyway it is not changing you...it is just a way of overcoming shyness...I remeber the first night i saw my former boyfriend i was drunk and thanks to that we got the chance to know each other...the beginnig is not important the important thing is how it ends. I love to get drunk, i am so funny and i forget about everything around and i have a really good time...ooops that sounds really bad!
(well if there are children reading, it is ok to get drunk for an adult but not for children...well it is not ok for an adult either, it is just ok for an adult if the adult does it in a controlled way or something like that...phew! thanks whoever i didnt chose to become a teacher!!!)
2007-02-01 21:48:01 · answer #4 · answered by whoknows 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Alcoholism seems the main concern first. This needs to be addressed.
2007-02-01 21:54:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋