I have some friends of mine at another college who just lost a wonderful friend that I didn't get the chance to meet. The funeral is tomorrow and I'm going to it to be a support and encouragement and just a friendly touch/a shoulder to cry on and someone to hug them when they can't keep it in anymore. I mean if they are all crying they can't support each other too much at the present moment.
So my question is...is it inappropriate for me to be going since I didn't know the person but I know know the friends of the person??
2007-02-01 13:26:54 · 15 answers · asked by misscountrylover777 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Your're supporting your friends in a time of need and mourn. I say you be pal and be there to hold them tight. I'm sure they we'll need your caring and compassion.
2007-02-01 13:31:56 · answer #1 · answered by Drivliam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you can go, but oftentimes people go to funerals because they think they should go. That is not a good reason. If you are there to pay respects to the dead person, fine, but only if you actually knew them. I think it is rather weird to go to a funeral of someone you don't know just to show support to friends that did know the person. I've seen this happen time and again, when total strangers show up at funerals and the family has no idea who all these people are. Close friend of a relative of the deceased, maybe go, if you met the relative--but funerals are not meant to be social events. It is for closure for the immediate family and close friends of the deceased. You are neither.
I went to a funeral for a really great person last fall, his daughter was a teacher and so all of the teachers from her school came, most had never met her father. They filled the little church up. The person who died was my second cousin, but who was more of an uncle to me since he was the same age as my parents and I grew up around him and his kids were my age. I was relegated, along with several other close relatives, to the back of some room down the hall and could not even get in the main sanctuary because so many people wanted to "pay their respects" even though they did not know the deceased. Us family would have liked them to have paid their respects by letting us having a nice family funeral without all of the crowds of strangers!
2007-02-01 23:26:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to know a person to attend a funeral....sometimes people go just as a show of support and its apparent that they do need you there. A co-workers mom passed away and a lot of us from work went to the funeral....we didn't know her mom but we went to show her support and she really appreciated it, through the tears and frustration she hugged us so hard and thanked us individually for being there..I think it would be a wonderful gesture for you to go.....:)
2007-02-01 21:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by Pegi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jasc, you are an insensitive asshat and you have been reported.
No, I would not go to a funeral for someone I didn't know. Your friends won't be inconsolable without you - but you know your friends better than I do, so just go with the idea that NONE of what happens is about you. Otherwise, your friends will REALLY resent you for it.
2007-02-01 21:31:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it will be good if you go, you can be there to help your friends through this hard time and support them. Hope it all goes well for you.
2007-02-01 21:31:39 · answer #5 · answered by saau2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be inappropriate for you to go to the funeral. However, being there after the funeral so you can support your friends would definitely be appreciated I'm sure.
2007-02-01 21:31:39 · answer #6 · answered by jerk19magnet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, its not inappropriate, you are showing your friends that you care for them and you are there for them if the need be. I think it is sweet! Besides, unless you tell others that you didn't know this person, how would they know?
2007-02-01 21:30:44 · answer #7 · answered by melody g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not innappropriate if you were invited to a funeral and showing your respect for the friend is truly sincere of you.
2007-02-01 21:31:45 · answer #8 · answered by Shadows of my Sins 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no not at all your friend needs the support and you are being a excellent friend by doing so
2007-02-01 21:32:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no as you are going to support your friends.
2007-02-01 21:31:14 · answer #10 · answered by larry r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋