I cant take this any more, if you read my previous questions youll understand if you dont mistake me for a immature child, i really am in love, and i've learned the definition of love when i met a girl named C (im not naming names). All I want is advise, im running out of sanity very slowly, but its gotten to such a low point i acutally held a razor blade in my own hands and cried. i need help, i know i need help, but i dont need therapy, my parents cannot know, they will never understand, i need help from people who think im not some preppy 13 year old and dumps a girl every 2 weeks, and replace me with a 15 year old who's found true love but is unable to obtain it, according to tests, im really officialy depressed. I have a moderate to severe case, but im asking yahoo for help. I DO NOT want a councelor i just want relief from the whirlpool life has taken me in for.
2007-02-01 13:06:30 · 8 answers · asked by Eplic 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am truly saddened by your pain, you seem to be a deep, emotional person. You must have heard a million times to just give it time, but that doesn't fix the now. Right now, this is the most important thing to you, to be with her. Oh ya, I've been there and wish I knew then what I know now. Though it doesn't change the experience of losing great love, but what I know now gives me the ability to deal with it. I know you care about yourself, else you wouldn't feel this way. This is what I would do and have done. Be worthy, draw strength from this, you don't have tell yourself that you don't matter, but if you can, try not to worry so much about yourself. Instead, let your love flow from you by being there for others. Help make someone smile, to feel better about them self, especially someone who is less fortunate. And if you do this unselfishly, without thought of reward, something will change in you. One more thing I have learned, if you are right with yourself you will be in the right place, at the right time and it will happen. And keep in mind as I do when hurtful things happen, there are people that live in absolute torture, feel for them.
2007-02-01 14:04:56 · answer #1 · answered by Benevolent Enigma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A woman, by no means, is worth taking your own life for. I have have lost at loved and it hurts. I have also hurt those that I loved and I know they were depressed. The one person I could always count on is God and Jesus Christ. They brought a peace to my life. I am not saying everything is perfect, but I am saying that they are in my heart and mind every day that I walk this earth. God's love is unconditional. I said I lost at love, I still love the woman and I will not stop. She was a great part of my life and it did not work out. Now I love my girlfriend and if it is meant to be that we are going to be together for the rest of my life, she will have a love for God first as well as me. God should come first in any relationship. The closer the two get closer to God, the two of you will become closer together. Think of a triangle. You two are at the bottoma and God is at the top. You get closer.
Do not give up on love, and do not give up on humans. There are good ones out here. Look for one who has the love of God and you will find a good person.
2007-02-01 13:39:07 · answer #2 · answered by meonhere 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Asking yahoo for help won't work. You need either a counselor or a close friend whom you can trust and talk things through with. If the depression is severe enough, you can't usually extricate yourself, you will need external help.
P.S.: Looking at the other answers, it's probably a good idea to talk to the girl about how you feel about her, but if it's a case of unrequited love it's best not to tell her too much about what you're going through, it will only make her feel bad, and surely you don't want that (especially if she herself is going through a rough time).
2007-02-01 13:19:27 · answer #3 · answered by musiclover 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should, talk to this girl try to see if this love is completly true. Are you in a relationship with her? If so tell her how you feel. Also, do not cut yourself it is a huge hazord to your helf. Doing things like that is never the answer. And lastly, think about your life and see if your really ready to love or if your jumping ahead of what your heart is really telling you. I hope this advice helps.
2007-02-01 13:12:53 · answer #4 · answered by Jordee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No female has the right to hurt you to that point. You have a right to be loved and that right person will come along someday. Do not get involved with codependecy. Learn to love yourself first! Then you will learn to recognize things before your emotions take over.
2007-02-01 13:12:24 · answer #5 · answered by meganzopf 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
=( Hey, you don't need to cut yourself. Even if times do get severely bad for you, you can't hurt yourself like that. Cutting yourself might lead to other things, like suicide, and that's a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
Don't beat yourself up for whatever is happening in your life and don't think about the bad things. You have to find the strength to overcome depression because it's not great (from experience).
I hope that helps. =]
2007-02-01 13:13:33 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa :) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, love isnt supposed to make you feel that way. talk to her about it, and whatever you do dont ever ever resort to that. try lsitening to music, looking at pictures, excercising, just dont do anything like that. its not worth it. itll all work out, ive felt like that before, i understand completely. just be safe, dont do anything stupid! theres a ton of people out there who love you for who you are. dont surprise them with this.
2007-02-01 13:12:49 · answer #7 · answered by CoolBeanz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I sent you an email so if you need to talk you no where you can reach me
2007-02-01 13:21:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋