My partner and I have been together for 6yrs. I can't stand him anymore, he's a useless father who does nothing for me and nothing for my son. All he does is verbally and sometimes physically abuse me and scares my baby with his anger. He spends all his spare time attached to the computer.
Anyways my family and I are moving down south in a few months to have a fresh start and I told him I don't want him to come and that we should separate for 6 months to get our lives together and at the end of that time see if we can make it work.
Well he won't have a bar of it and said he'll take me to court over custody of my son who he doesn't even lift a finger for. He said he'll get custody over me because he has a fulltime job and a steady income.
It's breaking my heart because I want to leave him and have a happy loving home for my 9 month old. I'm not happy, infact i'm miserable in this relationship and the thought of my son being taken away from me is killing me.
What do I do
2007-02-01 13:06:02 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
courts tend to favor the mothers, especially since you have been the primary care giver for the baby. men are clueless in the care of babies, the court knows this. get a lawyer, if you can't settle it with out a fight.
try to always be functional parents for your child.
children are not tools, they should be loved and cherished.
2007-02-01 13:42:00 · answer #1 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right about leaving this guy. For him to verbally and physically abuse you is wrong. If he wants to go to court, let him. The court usually favors the mother (if she is the primary caregiver of the child), and income only plays a part of it, so don't worry too much about that part. The most important thing the judge will consider is the overall well-being of the child. If you tell the judge exactly what you wrote on here, with the abuse and all and hopefully have witness to it, there is NO WAY the judge will grant the father sole custody. Talk to a lawyer. Some will offer free consultation. Good Luck.
2007-02-01 14:02:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should seek legal aid as soon as possible.Will your family support you?Just because he has a steady income that does not mean that he makes the best custodian of a child. At this age the child needs a mother.How would he care for the child?Has he thought of that?There is a lot more to child rearing than what your boyfriend thinks.The fact that he physically and verbally abuses you goes a long way in your favour.
2007-02-01 13:15:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the court system, it favors the mother keeping the children first. Unless it deems you a unfit mother, by some stretch of the imagination, they will grant custody in favor of the father. Girl you gotta get out of there take your kids and start a new life, but just get out of there. He is in attack mode and he is trying to scare you, from your independence because he wants to keep you under his thumb. He doesn't want you to leave his control, and will do anything to manipulate you to stay. Be strong you can do it!!!! Find the courage within and be brave, and give your children and you a better future. ( Don't let him manipulate you)
2007-02-01 13:22:20 · answer #4 · answered by bulldogsr2cute 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have no legal paperwork saying anyone has custody, you probably can do whatever YOU need to do for your child. He would have to seriously prove that you are an unfit mother to get total custody. Especially if you have been smart and called the police for any DV.
2007-02-02 06:35:28 · answer #5 · answered by Fuzzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you...... omigod, you are so brave for putting up with his mess..... i think you should talk to a trusted family member about that... like your mom or a aunt or grandma. if not, a pastor( if your religous). thats all i can say....... way to go and good luck! you go girl! oh, i am in shock, you know what, thats how people are these days..... so MEAN! everything that goes around comes around, so STAY STRONG. ill pray for you( if your religous)
2007-02-01 13:14:06 · answer #6 · answered by bugsandtweety 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cant touch your son. Don't sweat it. And hire a shark of a lawyer, this is what they're for.
2007-02-01 13:11:05 · answer #7 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i move out now
and get a really good lawyer to fight this
good luck
2007-02-01 13:20:57 · answer #8 · answered by manblind1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋