said that they are allowed to ask for i.d if they think i am going to comit an offence,
I asked what offence do you think I'm going to do & one officer replyed "are you a rent boy, are you working"
I was so upset I started crying, I told him i was only 16 and walking to get the train home, then i heard the other cop say "don't worrie it's just a nancy boy"
Why do police feel they have the right to treat me in this way, this experience has been very upsetting.
2007-02-01 13:05:01 · 13 answers · asked by ? 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I am terribly sorry that this happened to you *hug.* I'm American and I suspect you are English. If you were nearby I'd hug you for real but since I can't do that, I hope that I infused the cyberhug with enough energy to make you feel a little better -- what happened was awful.
There is nothing wrong with you. I don't know English law, but they didn't have the right to treat you that way if you do happen to be American.
As to why they WANT to treat you that way. My honest assessment is that you are handsome, sweet, and evidently gay. They (or at least the cop that approached you) feel(s) some attraction to you (remember, if you ignore all the apologetic studies and concentrate on reasonable research, the percentage of bisexuals is probably close to 40%. Most NEVER deal with what they feel.) So a cop who has that hidden personality substrate sees you -- get's mildly turned on, which he does not even acknowledge consciously, feels uncomfortable subconsciously for feeling aroused, even a little, at the sight of you -- and so has to find a way to make himself a victim. If you are a "rent" boy then he can punish you for it, and say to himself "that's why he turned me on, he's a professional at manipulating men like me." The other cop sounds like the more reasonable one, and he did bring the situation under control, probably without knowing why it arose.
Again, I am sorry. You seem like a sweet, kind, good boi -- and coming from me (I've raised two boys of my own - adopted - and sometimes we think most or all of their friends) that is a compliment not a disparaging comment. Do not let what happened get you down, don't let it change you one bit, let the fear go (litany against fear pasted below signature -- from a fictional book but I know dozens of people who have used it to help them handle fear in RL) and remember that you are great and you can do anything.
*hug*
Kindest thoughts and lots of love,
Reyn
believeinyou24@yahoo.com
The Litany Against Fear (recite to self when afraid)
LITANY AGAINST FEAR
I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain.
-- Herbert
2007-02-01 15:51:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
let other people know how you were treated. Contact your local paper, the gay hotline, the gay paper, and the police chief. Make a stink. If you're afraid of the police, check around for a gay-friendly lawyer in the gay yellow pages and maybe they can help make a stink for you without naming names. let it be known you are a minor and have been harassed by the local police. Are you out to your folks? If yes, get your folks to help you. Don't let them get away with this. But aqlso, don't do anything to get pulled in by them. Be safe but be Out. My best to you.
2007-02-01 21:39:20 · answer #2 · answered by reme_1 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
if you got there names and badge numbers you should file formal complaints with the police department. there is no excuse for what they did to you. and were i am from a cop cant ask for an ID unless you are driving a car.so maybe they could get in trouble for that to.
2007-02-01 21:55:09 · answer #3 · answered by joe s 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i would go to a gay association and explain the situation to them. I was once in a gay association and we were longing to have cases like this one...When we gays are together there is nothing we like more than a good fight and more if it is for a good cause
2007-02-01 21:27:27 · answer #4 · answered by whoknows 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately ingnorance is still around and until more people like that start to learn, it won't get any better
2007-02-01 22:21:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Raise holy hell. These bums are a disgrace to the uniform and throwbacks to more primitive times. File a complaint with their captain and the community liaison. Maybe a pro bono lawyer can explain the requirements of "probable cause" to them.
2007-02-01 21:20:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 3⤋
Where on earth do you live? Good God..
Had that happened to me, I would have shown them my I.D., then I would have written down their names and badge number so I could have the information correct when I lodged a formal complaint against them.
Harassment is against the law.. Cop or no Cop..
2007-02-01 21:12:58 · answer #7 · answered by Aunt Henny Penny 5 · 11⤊ 3⤋
They called me "twinkle-toes" before they beat me up...
I think there are laws in place for this. I don't think it's allowed in the rules or police officer conduct. I would think that if you had their names you could make a report to their superiors.
2007-02-01 21:18:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 3⤋
Who says nacy boy in the year 2007?
2007-02-01 21:10:50 · answer #9 · answered by Space Ace 4 · 4⤊ 5⤋
Try not wearing the lipstick and see-thru blouse, with your poofed up hair. In other words, try not to look like you'll suck for a buck, or take a drilling for a shilling. Or that the name you most answer to is Ben Dover.
2007-02-01 21:17:41 · answer #10 · answered by Grist 6 · 1⤊ 8⤋