About two weeks ago my boyfriend had me moved out by filing a temp restraining move out, stay away order. I have not until today been able to go back to the house for any of my belongings. My family however did go get some of my stuff and said it was all being packed. There was nothing I could do until the hearing. That was today,When I seen my boyfriend for the first time since all of this he hugged me and asked me to come back home.We went in front of the judge and my boyfriend asked that all orders be dropped.Judged agreed and on our own we walked out. He informed me he had a girl move in just temporary and nothing was going on.First off all,I wouldn't even come back if this had not really left me homeless and know facing the chance of loosing custody of my son.I of course could allow myself to be a fool & let him convince me there is still a real chance,I'd try again even though.I just met her & feel I should just blantly ask her if there has been any thing going on between them?
2007-02-01 12:56:34 · 13 answers · asked by Shay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No,, dont. do not make yourself look like a jerk. if you are good, you are always good. why worry?
2007-02-01 13:01:40 · answer #1 · answered by kenn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would, doesn't hurt to ask. She could be lying if she likes him and wants a relationship with him. I wouldn't know who to believe to be honest with you. I think that this is a very big price to pay for shacking up with someone. You might want to get your own place and work on your relationship. It's best to be secure and have your own home. You can still go over there, but I would get your own place. Don't do this because you are homeless and have a kid. Use your head and get your own place where you and your son have a home together. Don't move in with him until you are married. Is he the father of this child?
2007-02-01 13:03:08 · answer #2 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you confronting her? You said yourself the problem is him. Women, why do we jump to the wrong conclusions. HE put you out. HE filed the restraining order. HE moved the girl in. SHE didn't do anything. YOU need to finish packing your stuff, swoop up your baby and think abou the welfare of your child. This is not a stable place for him to be. Do not let yourself be fooled. If he put you out in JANUARY, he will do it again. Don't make any excuses for HIM, confront HIM after you are gone, and get out of there. Leave that girl alone, you are just causing more drama for yourself...
2007-02-01 13:03:02 · answer #3 · answered by Crissy C 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is a very dangerous situation. This man put you in jeopardy of loosing your son and I think it would be absolutely ridiculous for you to even entertain the idea of going back to be with him. Consider this every time you think about giving him another chance....he put you out and put a restraining order on you........you can forgive him but please do not forget.........he is an insensitive jerk......Please don't even consider giving him another chance and then on top of that he moved another woman in the house and you want to confront her.......why????????....she had nothing to do with what went on with you and your ex.......and you don't need to ask her anything.....let your female intuition be your guide, you know what type of person he is -you are not slow........Leave him alone........I would hate to see you loose your child because of this foolish man.....move on ......he told you exactly how he felt about you when he put you out........things are not going to be any better if you take him back......so the next time he put you out what will you do.....
As women we try to follow our "hearts" which is not good in all situations...........I beg you to put your child first and contrary to popular opinions....there are good guys out there.....and there is someone that will treat you and your child the way you are supposed to be treated.........let that bum go.........
think about your baby..............its all about you and your son......
please make the right decision..............put your baby first...
good luck :)
2007-02-01 13:08:21 · answer #4 · answered by Pegi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shoulda went to Judge Judy. dont go back, something was going on and you know it. he's playin you for a fool. I think the original restraining order should have been your wake up call. You didnt say if this dude is the father. and asking her any questions ont satisfy you, she could easily lie.
2007-02-01 13:02:56 · answer #5 · answered by molly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy Jerry Springer!! Just forget about this whole thing and concentrate on being a good mother...you don't need all this crap screwing up your kid! You must have been acting pretty crazy to have a restraining order against you...get a grip!
2007-02-01 13:13:07 · answer #6 · answered by Redawg J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if there was anything going on, he wouldnt have told u he wanted u to come back home.
But if it makes u feel better, then sure, ask her.
Set your mind at ease regardless what it takes to do that.
I hope everything works out for u.
Good luck hun.
2007-02-01 13:05:07 · answer #7 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a woman n i'm shy til u get to understand me. i will sit in college quiet n not verify with everybody n wen ppl verify with me i'm getting worried...... yet when ik u n were friends i'm much better outgoing .... I purely get worried round more recent people n i'm getting scared..... adult adult males continuously calls me lovable n lovable cuz i'm shy, short, were given a fabulous body, im sweetheart til u piss me off, stuff like that......
2016-12-03 08:23:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on baby - not worth the trouble
good luck
2007-02-01 13:07:32 · answer #9 · answered by tirebiter 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I doubt that you will believe anything that she might tell you.
Drop the subject.
2007-02-01 13:01:01 · answer #10 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋