I enjoy listening to people, yet sometimes the conversation gets lost because I am studying their facial features the whole time. I'll even do this with people on television. Does anybody else do this? What are some techniques and ideas to correct this so I can truly listen and understand people?
2007-02-01 12:29:07 · 11 answers · asked by cap3382 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It's normal. But consider this:
Appearance is only additional point for people - to attract people to talk to you and be interested to you. But when it comes to conversation and communication, i think the inner part plays the most important role.
There might be a beautiful/handsome people, you're attracted and then by the time you talk to them, they're brainless and empty, you'd lost interest instantly.
There might be ugly looking people but when you try to communicate with them, they're so rich and therefore you get attracted.
So, try not to focus too much on the facial features the whole time.
2007-02-01 13:04:51 · answer #1 · answered by williams 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The art of being a great conversationalist is first learning to be a great listener. One technique for doing this is to repeat to yourself anything that the person conversing with you says. Then present your own opinion or point of view when the situation arises, but try not to interrupt. You can also try to look away or stare into space as if you are listening intensely. Someone once told me that "the mouth is the instrument of destruction and the ears are the instrument of learning.
2007-02-01 12:57:24 · answer #2 · answered by Trail Hiker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over yourself. Stop being so judgmental and instead, listen to them. You're judging them based on the outside and are missing everything they have to offer on the inside.
2007-02-01 12:33:13 · answer #3 · answered by misskate12001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-03 08:22:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first understand that most people cannot help how they look unless they are overweight from overeating. also remember not everyone is going to find you attractive. try listening with your heart and not with your perception of what is attractive and what is not.
2007-02-01 12:37:14 · answer #5 · answered by molly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I never do that! everybody has something interesting to say and you can learn something from them That is just plain rude Try to put yourself in their shoes and feel some empathy
2007-02-01 12:35:53 · answer #6 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow maybe just look in there eyes, or just tell them your listening but you look at something else.
2007-02-01 12:33:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry I'm not that shallow. Who's to say your not ugly or different? Grow up
2007-02-01 12:39:25 · answer #8 · answered by frankie b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
er......don't look at their face. look at a point directly above their head. it will look like you're looking at them, and you can listen to the conversation!
2007-02-01 12:32:31 · answer #9 · answered by Dynamite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try closing yuor eyes if it is on the television. if not, try maintaining eye contact and not studying their face
2007-02-01 12:32:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋