...for a 16 year old (like me) to hate marriage so much i thought about not getting married at all. i don't think it's stupid but i do think it's pointless. i mean, both of you (partners) are happy for like, i dont know, maybe 10 years..have kids, and suddenly love starts to disappear.
2007-02-01 12:02:50 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
excuse me..but im a gal alright..and i think i am old enough to think of stuff like marriage..everyone should be aware of everything that's happening around us..and yea, thanks guys..i'll tell you guys if i actually get married or change my mind. xD..thanks..
2007-02-01 13:04:59 · update #1
Does not happen to all, but you are certainly very perceptive of what happens to many.
2007-02-01 12:07:16 · answer #1 · answered by victorschool1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This tends to happen a lot because people don't grow together... and also because people rush into things. Everyone is ready to get married at such a young age, when you are still changing and figuring out who you are and what you want out of life. You can't possibly find someone you want to share your life with, when you dont know who you are yet, and neither do they. People's wants and needs change throughout their lives.
Marriage can be a wonderful thing, if you respect it enough to know that it is a symbol of your everlasting love, and that it shouldn't be taken lightly.
The fact that people are getting divorced so much now is not because "jesus is not present in marriage" or whatever someone said earlier. That's ridiculous. I think if Jesus was present at those people's weddings, I'm pretty sure it still wouldn't have mattered. They would have still ended up unhappy.
My main point here is that people no longer view marriage as such a sanctioned, holy bond. It's so easy to get divorced in our time, that most people don't think it's a big deal. So people fall in love, get married, become unhappy in 5-10 years, and don't want to work at solving their problems, so they just divorce.
I understand in certain situations, divorce can be necessary, but I think mostly it's just people's unwillingness to work out their problems, it's much easier to get rid of a problem, than to solve it.
Don't be discouraged though... just because marriage isn't working out well for everyone, or other people, doesn't mean that you can't make it work. I know many couples well into their 80's who are extremely happy with their husband/wife.
You just have to make sure you pick the right woman, and be sure that you could dedicate yourself to her for life.
Good luck.
2007-02-01 12:16:20 · answer #2 · answered by Charleen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still young. When you meet someone and really FALL in love and want to be with that someone forever, you will change your mind. It's not necessary to be married to have kids, but a family is what you owe to the child. Marriage is a job, a 24 hour job, you have to work at it, alot of people just give up. There are many couples that live together married for 50 to 60 yers!!!
2007-02-01 12:18:22 · answer #3 · answered by justright73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is normal. It seems like from your comment that your parents are divorced and well that has an affect on children. One day you will change your mind and just try to learn from their mistakes and remember to never let love disappear. The truth is love is not something that will last forever if both people do not take time to respect and show each other they love each other.
2007-02-01 12:10:35 · answer #4 · answered by mytessa77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes its normal for you to have your opinions about marriage. But not all marriage fail. You have to give 50/50 in a marriage for it to work. A little advice to you when the time comes and you fall in love take your time to make sure that their the one you want to spend the rest of your life with alot of marriage fail because they werent done exploring if you know what I mean.
2007-02-01 12:17:52 · answer #5 · answered by hotmoma1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was having similar thoughts. I have the same view about dating. Why date someone when you know inside that you arent going to marry them later. Why even date untill you are at least 20? See what I mean? But at least it would be nice while it lasted, I guess.
2007-02-01 12:45:37 · answer #6 · answered by Kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's normal. I thought the same way when I was 16. Now, I'm living with someone and consider us married, but we're doing the whole wedding and other bunk later 'cause who doesn't like gifts?!
2007-02-01 12:08:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it's normal i feel the same way as you those reasons are true but for me it's more because a lot of guys are jerks when it comes to females and they're ALL pervs.....they don't care they just want one thing....if they could they'd go leave you to be hugh hefner! they probably get married to have a servant rebound & sex or some reason like tht......yea ur perfectly normal i decided to never get married also
2007-02-01 13:33:55 · answer #8 · answered by mamama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 16 I wouldn't even worry yourself about marriage. Some marriages are great some aren't. You can control your own destiny.
2007-02-01 13:01:25 · answer #9 · answered by chemky1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That maybe true in a lot of marriages but not in the ones where God chose your partner.
2007-02-01 12:14:03 · answer #10 · answered by leona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you grow up, get an education, enjoy girls/ladies for the beauty and brains, you will be a smarter guy. Right now you are entitled to earn the TURD OF THE MONTH AWARD.
2007-02-01 12:08:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋