I'm very, very shy and awkward person, and always have been. I do have some close friends, and I can be myself around them, but it's not completely me...it's not like the way I am at home. At home, with my immediate family, I can joke and not laugh at myself. But in public, comments and jokes are non-existant...or awkward. If someone says something funny to me, I'll just laugh...and don't say anything more...so they assume that I'm brushing them off and don't care.
I'm so sick of looking lame or like a kill-joy. What can I do to really be myself around others?
2007-02-01 11:58:03 · 10 answers · asked by :D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
its just something u'll have to do...U have to not care what others think like if u want to do something silly u are probably thinking "will everyone think this funny?" Its like you're worried how everyone will take it and u shouldnt be cause then you're not being yourself. So just act like how u are and screw whoever doesn't like it.
2007-02-01 12:05:44 · answer #1 · answered by JAY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! I am quite outgoing and I have the same problem every now and then too! Sometimes I am a little too concerned about what these new people will think of me so I clam up and feel insecure. This can be stressful and stress stifles creativity. Creativity allows you to see and point out the humor in different situations.
It can take time to feel comfortable but how about bringing along a friend who you feel confident around, particularly one that is good at bringing others into a conversation. This person can be your spring board to interaction by keeping the conversation moving while playing off of your strengths (steering the conversation toward topics you are knowledgeable at or enjoy). As your success grows, so will your confidence
I have mastered the open mouth, insert foot syndrome, if you need any advice on that. . .
2007-02-01 20:14:58 · answer #2 · answered by paradyne77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I get like that too. You don't have to be funny. If you don't know what they're talking about or something, just make a little comment to add to the conversation, but don't be all cheesy. Once you get comfortable with people they will see your true personality.
2007-02-01 20:02:24 · answer #3 · answered by Allie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you mean, I've started reading a book called "Off the Cuff - what to say at a moment's notice" which gives you tips on overcoming fear of public speaking (which would include groups of strangers, I guess) Good luck!
2007-02-01 20:01:46 · answer #4 · answered by Chay D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO YOU CONCIDER YOURSELF TO BE THE CLASS CLOWN
IM SURE THAT YOU DONT? THEN WHY IS IT SO IMPORTANT
TO BE FUNNY AROUND PEOPLE THAT YOU DONT KNOW? A
S A MATTER OF FACT, WHY DO YOU GET OFF BEING FUNN
Y AROUND PEOPLE THAT YOU THINK THAT YOU DO KNOW
WHAT DO YOU FIND SO FUNNY ABOUT YOURSELF, OR THE
OTHER PEOPLE THAT YOU CALL YOURSELF LAUGHING AT
YOU MAYNOT KNOW IT, BUT THE JOKE IS ON YOU, AND AB
OUT YOU IN EVERY DETAIL AND WAY. THE ONLY CATCH IS
THAT YOU DONT KNOW IT, BECAUSE YOU ARE TOO BUSY
TRYING TO FIND SOMETHING ABOUT OTHERS TO LAUGH AT?
2007-02-01 20:10:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Say Just try being yourself dont try to be funny just do what you do and if the person or persons still dont like you then you really dont need them to anyway
2007-02-01 20:04:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is ok you are really not shy your just trying to hard do not try so hard be cool!!!!!!! Hit me back at sherikafrederick@yahoo.com
2007-02-01 20:02:22 · answer #7 · answered by sherikafrederick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they dont know your type of funny yet. be yourlsef and let them get to know you. once they do they will get wht your sayin and your jokes...
2007-02-01 20:01:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be yourself and relax. . . maybe your too cautious about what others might think about you. the best way to handle it is just be yourself and relax...
it is not what others might think about you but what others see in you. . .
2007-02-01 20:04:02 · answer #9 · answered by ahleks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
caz they dn't no u an how u act same way wit me
2007-02-01 20:00:18 · answer #10 · answered by Restricted 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋