So my friend was 6 weeks pg and lost the baby. She just found out her mom has breast cancer. She really wants her mom to be around when she has kids and her mom really wants to be a grandma. Well, she's not married, she's 19 and doesn't have a house yet but her and her boyfriend are looking 4 1. She really wants to have a baby while her mom is still around. I'm not sure its such a good idea to get pregnent so young on purpose because of something like that. I mean don't get me wrong, I'm 20 and happily pg, I don't a major problem with young moms as long as they can support themselves and a baby but I just don't know if that is the right reason to have a baby. What do you think?
2007-02-01 11:36:20 · 11 answers · asked by *Italian*<3*Floridian* 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
First off, she's feeling a great loss with the miscarrige and maybe now she really does want a baby and for more reasons than just so her mom can be there. I say that if she's really wanting to have a baby, then it's up to her and her partner.
2007-02-01 11:42:59 · answer #1 · answered by bluegrass 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a would think it would nice of her 2 let her mom see at least one of her grandchildren before she goes but if ur friend is already trying 2 have a baby even if she isn't fiances(sorry cant spell so good) sort or has a house then she will probably do everything in her power 2 make sure her baby would be healthy but nature will only take its course when it does u know if she keeps stressing about having a child before her mother goes then it might take longer 2 have a child
plus she isn't that young 2 have a child either
am 18 and nearly 12weeks pregnant with not everything like money n a house but when my baby is born a will do everything in my power 2 make sure he or she gets everything it needs if u know what i mean
2007-02-01 19:46:20 · answer #2 · answered by mummy of 2gorgeous boys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel we can't judge someone on what they want to do. If she knows her mother is going to pass on for sure, then she is trying to do a self-less act. If her mother has a chance of living, then there may be other reasons your friend may be wanting a baby. If she just lost a child there is a huge chance that she will have problems caring children full term. Which can lead to many complications during pregnancy. I would make sure and support my friend in any decision she makes. Just remember she is the one that has to live with her decisions. Friends are there to help support our decisions and help us through the hard times.
2007-02-01 19:45:21 · answer #3 · answered by Amy C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with her wanting to have a baby while her mom is still around. Im so sorry for her loss of her last pregnancy and for whats going on with her mom and I pray that her next pregnancy goes great. You need to be there for her and support her on wanting to try to have another baby. I think its very sweet that she wants to have children before or if anything happens to her mother. I hope she and her boyfriend get what they want.
2007-02-01 20:52:42 · answer #4 · answered by bettyboop 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look all you can do is be by your friends side and support her with what ever she is going threw and just let her know that you are there for her and what i think is theres a good and a bad say she gets pregnant and in the middle of her pregnancy god forbid her mother passes thats going to be really hard on her or what if she miscarries again you know all of us can try to give good advice but only the big man knows what stored in her future so tell just leave in to gods hands nd pray , I'm so sorry to here about her pregnancy lost and as well as what is going on with her mother life can really be a pinch in the butt
2007-02-01 19:50:42 · answer #5 · answered by Veee Smitten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think her mom would be more comfortable knowing her daughter is going to be able to provide for the child she is having. No mother wants their own daughter to live a life of less luxury than what they themselves provided. I'm sure her mom isn't too excited about her daughter fornicating anyway.
2007-02-01 19:45:27 · answer #6 · answered by Cynthia S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is probably nothing you can do about it. In my opinion she is doing something very special for her mother. Also she should make sure the guy that she is with is worth while. Try to support her and help her out. She is probably feeling very depressed right now.
2007-02-01 19:45:16 · answer #7 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a good intension but a bad idea. you have to think about your baby whether you can bring her up properly. it is not a candy that if you don't want then you can throw it away. this is a human being you'll be bring into this world and you must be ready and responsible enough for your child wellbeing.
2007-02-01 19:47:58 · answer #8 · answered by ahleks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its really up to her but 19 and unmarried?Yeah we need more of that.
2007-02-01 19:46:05 · answer #9 · answered by Space Ace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's their choice. Random people on yahoo answers can't make up their minds for them.
2007-02-01 19:40:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋