I told my transgender friend's boyfriend today that he was actually dating a transwomen. At first he did not believe me but eventually he did. He was shocked, he was actually shaking.
The reason I did this was because this poor guy wanted marry her and have kids with her. He is also straight. She had no right to take away his choice to sleep with a biological male with XY chromasone.
Does anyone know of transwomen who has does this to anyone else before?
2007-02-01 11:02:40 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
OMG. That's awful. No, not that she didn't tell him, that you opened your big mouth, when it's none of your GD business. Try to stay the heck OUT of other peoples lives.
There's thing called karma. What if it was that guys karma to be lied to, and now you done messed it up. Not only will he have to re-do it some other way, but now you've taken on some responsibility and YOU will be turned out for something "wrong" YOU are doing, or have done.
2007-02-01 11:40:47 · answer #1 · answered by Alias400 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Call me biased or anything you want as a soon to be postop but even though in your mind you can legitamize it, what you did is wrong. Telling anyone about another persons obviously personal medical condition is wrong. That's it. Bottom line no debate needed. What makes you think they can't have kids? Ever hear of adoption? My partner and I have done that and whether that child was conceived by us our not, it is our child and we love it regardless. The whole notion he is straight and yet you somehow think sleeping with a man is ridiculous. She is a woman now! It's not like a chromosomal difference makes sex any better or worse. It makes no difference in the bond they have either. Love is love regardless. Did you ever stop to consider that since they've been together for two years things were going pretty good without you putting in your two cents? Do you even realize there is a possibility you just destroyed a relationship and lost a friend in the process? Did you consider that such actions sometimes lead people to act out in incredibly brutal fits of violence and it is possible you just put your friend in harms way? If you think I'm kidding google Brandon Teena or Gwen Aruajo (sp on last name might be off) and see what happened to them. Did you realize in the US at least one trans person has been murdered every month since 1996 and even more are the victims of hate crimes? what you did was irresponsible. If it worried you so much why didn't you approach your friend and discuss why she hadn't told him yet and maybe encouraged her to be forthright with him about- and regardless of her answer just keep your nose out of it.
And to more directly answer your question I do know of women who have done exactly what you're talking about and although sometimes things were rocky eventually they told their partners and more often than not things worked out because the relationship was strong. It is her right to tell him whenever she is comfortable and feels ready, not when you or anyone else feels it is. Way to go pal!
2007-02-01 12:00:48 · answer #2 · answered by bi_tgrl 5 · 8⤊ 0⤋
I think this sounds like something you made up, BUT IF it is true then you over-stepped your boundaries. If you feel that strongly about telling your friend he's going out with a transgender person, then perhaps you should have consulted her first, and try to convince her to come clean about who she is (or was). If she was resistant to the idea you could have resorted to saying something like "If you don't tell him I will". That might have worked.
2007-02-01 13:31:10 · answer #3 · answered by gurlygirlhottie 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You had no right to ruin their relationship. Different people come out to people at different times, depending on their views and circumstances. You were not one of the two people in that relationship and could not know what the right time was. If you were so concerned, you should have talked to your trans "friend" about your concerns. If you would have let her come out to him herself, he might have been willing to continue the relationship. Now you made him feel like he had been intentionally deceived and not willing to have anything to do with her. Oh, and outing people can get them killed. You put *HER* life in danger by doing that.
2007-02-01 14:04:29 · answer #4 · answered by carora13 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
You don't have enough in your lame life so you took the time to ruin two lives? How noble of you. And what makes you think you are anyone's friend if thats the level of friendship you provide. I pity you.
2007-02-03 10:07:50 · answer #5 · answered by tara_365 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Dont listen to these weirdos. You did the right thing by outing that freak. The man needed to knkw he was in a gay lifestyle...
2014-02-22 00:07:41 · answer #6 · answered by Adifah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming out is a lifetime process for an individual.
It should be left to the individual only.
and when other people out other people than that gets downright nasty.
2007-02-01 11:11:42 · answer #7 · answered by Raver Xeno 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
totally agree. but also, shouldn't you have bi*ch slapped your friend for not realising? fair enough some of them really do look beautiful but, not all can be well in the furry city...
2016-05-24 03:20:16 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm curious as to how that made you feel. I don't personally know anyone else who has done this.
2007-02-01 11:09:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You must have mixed up your creative writing class homework with yahoo answers.
2007-02-01 11:05:27 · answer #10 · answered by castle h 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋