School problem, what should be done?

Question

My nice has not seen her father in years. He is a dead beat dad but thats all. My niece has been having ongoing problems with a boy at school, its been a nightmare as he lives right nextdoor to her, so there has been tensions between the two housholds over this also. His mother bitches to the other mothers in school, next thing is today some other girl tells my nice that "you had sex with your dad". Firstly this is very upsetting especially as my niece does not know her dad and also because this girl has gotten this bull from somewhere probably her own mother who gossips with our awful neighbour. The school cant or wont seem to do anything to dissapling these kids and its a so called catholic school, so you would think it would have higher moral standards. Anyhow I am her uncle and its upset everyone of course. What can be done seriously I need help to make this right somehow.

By the way my nice is only 8. I hate to think people are evil enough to make up such damaging rumours but apparently they are.

Answer 1

for the aggravation at the school. i would talk to the superintendent about what is going on. if he/she doesn't do anything about it then i would theaten to sue. this is very damaging for a child to hear and experience.

as far as the home situation, if your niece is getting aggravated at home ove this. this is harrassment and the cops can intervene to stop this problem. this is really all i can suggest to you other than moving out to somewhere else to get away from everything but i don't think it is necessary since it should be taken care of in other ways.

as far as people being this mean. oh yeah people are and it happens all over the world everyday. like you said, you would think since it is a catholic school that they would have higher standards but in some cases unfortunately that is not true. i speak from experience because i used to work in a christian school setting as a care provider. i thought that working in a christian program, i would not experience that kinds of behaviors that a public program would see. boy was i wrong. everyday i would hear foul language, other bad things, and receive total disrespect. now the crazy thing about this is i did not only hear these kinds of things out of the kids but the parents and co-workers as well. this really left me speechless and there was nothing i could do to solve the problem because no one would agree with me that there was a problem because everyone else did it. i feel your concern and frustration. do not give up on this situation. keep on it until something gets done. sometimes you have to fight fire with fire. being nice is not always the best route to accomplish something. hope this helps. hang in there, eventually things will get better. good luck.

Answer 2

This will traumatize your niece if it continues, maybe it already has. I can't believe the school is ignoring this problem, this is how troubled kids end up in school shootings. First your family needs to contact every level of the school board, either with a written letter or email. This will give you a written copy of your complaint. Make sure you don't leave out any details, include the names of each person (teachers, students, parents, etc.) who are involved in this and what their part is in it. Let them know that if they do not contact you to resolve this problem immediately, the child will be removed from the school and you will contact the local news. The child's gaurdian(you or her mom) needs to do this now, before she is tormented anymore. I would keep the child home until this is resolved, also send a copy of the letter you write to the school board to the principal of the school. It is really sickening that they are letting this happen to her. You may want to move her to a different school anyway, but the children who are doing this and the teachers who are allowing this to happen need to face the consequences of their actions. Unfortunetly Catholic schools are no better than public schools, I know people who have taken their children from Catholic schools because there were more problems there than in the public system. Your neice may also need someone to talk to about all of this, she needs to know that none of this is her fault. My heart goes out to her and your family. Good luck.

Answer 3

I would look into having your niece and her mom move away from the aggravation.. Its just too much staying there.

As for school, leave it the way it is..

Or you can try changing the school by bringing the problems to the school superintendent.