when do you say enough is enough ??

Question

I have been married for 4 yrs and we've been together for 6. I go to work everyday come home,cook ,clean ,take care of the baby etc etc, he barely notices me, i sleep alone and he sleeps on the floor in the living room, when we have sex (once a month or so ) he waits till i go to sleep then goes to the floor. I just dont know how much more i can take, its like were roommates not friends help.......

Answer 1

Talk to him. But it sounds like it's pretty much over. If he doesn't at least sleep in the same bed with you and show you some affection, besides sex, that's not good. I hope for your sake he's not seeing anyone else. You also have to decide what you want. If you want to stay, suggest marriage counseling. Otherwise, contact a lawyer.

Answer 2

Marriage has its good times and its not so good times, but this situation is not a marriage. Sorry you are going through this! It's worse than being roommates; at least roommates talk to one another on occasion!

You need to sit down and talk with him. Try to pick a time when you are both calm and in a relatively good mood, if possible. Also, stick to the issues that are bothering you, don't "kitchen sink" things or he will get very defensive. Tell him what you would like to have happen and ways that you can help. Then ask him how he can help.

If you two still love each other, there is always hope for almost any problem. GOOD LUCK.

Answer 3

I think enough was enough when he started sleeping on the living room floor - are there reasons behind that? You need to speak with each other openly and honestly about how your feeling, does he know how you feel or have you just expected him to? (I'm sure you've spoken, but whats needed is a good long discussion) Six years is a long time to just let go, but if he doesnt plan on changing, that would be your best option - scare him and let him know that. Dont stay around just because you share a child togeather (in fact - a baby) if you dont think Its going to work, you need to be happy in order to lead a happy life - follow your heart, you can do better if you want to. If you do part, stay friends you will be happier/better for it. Good luck

Answer 4

You need to make the first move and initiate sex and affection. Start showing more respect, appreciation, support, affection, and kindness. Your relationship will definitely turn around. My marriage was like this at one point, just roommates and had sex twice a month if it was a good month! I made the effort to start doing the above written items and he loved it, and did stuff in return! He started helping out and was enjoying just sitting at home and not doing anything. You need to make the first move since you notice the problem. He works all day too, and I'm sure he does stuff around the house, but that's life, we all have a lot of responsibilities. We are mostly responsible when we can put our home life first and make sure that our spouse is happy. Try these things and see what happens. It's never failed!

Answer 5

Sounds like you guys are stuck in a rut. Have you talked to him about this? If not.....u definately gotta do that.

Try spicing up your relationship and sex life. Make him remember why he married you. Take the baby for the weekend to mammaw and pappaw. The two of you rekindle your love with a cozy quiet and romantic weekend for two.
Do this for yourselves. Sometimes in the mix of a job, cooking, cleaning, and taking care of babies.....we forget about our partner.
Maybe he is feeling a little left out?
Or maybe there is a problem with him?
He needs some work too.....he needs to act more like a hubby and father as well and take a little more initiative to be involved.
Dont just give up yet.
There is still hope, but somebody has to take the wheel.
Looks like its gonna have to be you.
If after you try everything and still no change.....then see if there is a deeper problem ]
Good luck hun

Answer 6

Whats going on? Its only been 4 years you both sound miserable. You need to have a serious talk with him and find out what is wrong. You dont what to continue this marriage like this he is losing interest in you and you need to find out why? I wish you the best but if it doesnt work out then its probably not a bad thing you deserve happiness and this isnt it.

Answer 7

Wow, i thought that i was alone on this one. My boyfriend does the exact same thing to me. He sleeps on the floor because he says his back hurts. Then he doesnt hardly talk to me anymore. And i feel so lonely sometimes. He just plays his dang video game all day long. I dont know how someone could spend so much time on that thing. Then he ignores me, so then i ignore him, then he tries to turn it around on me and place the blame on me. Uhh. Its lonely and frustrating i know. I wish i had an answer for you, but i dont even have one for myself. If you get any good ideas, let me know.

Answer 8

I'd seriously talk to him find out what the problem is, he has to have a reason and you might sit there and say you know what enough is enough and walk out, but find out what his reasons for it is, you have a family and it might be worth working it out, kids need both their parents around as much as possible, you could try counseling, there are quite a few options out there, you just have to have a look at all of them and find out which is best suited to you.

Answer 9

I guess you have had enough. Base your future decisions on that fact. I was married to a man who kept coming and going for about 12 years until i had enough. I divorced him About 21/2 years ago i washed and packed a truck load of his clothes and told him to show up very soon to get them. It took me three months to do this for him. He said he would be here a few days later. I even went to his family to try to get him to come and get his things. His sister said; for me to get rid of them i kept them for a few more months. He never showed up or got back in touch with me so i took his sisters suggestion. Today he shows up with another woman(i already fussed with another one over whether or not he was coming after his things) He was wanting his HELL's Angels Ring. Well too bad because this HELL CAT done and got rid of those things. ENOUGH is ENOUGH If a man can't be there to hold you and love you why does a woman need him? I found some womens clothes mixed in with his-not mine!

Answer 10

your first ? is I'm I ready to move on?
and are you ready to be a single mom?
If yes then that is enough you should move on and make a better life for you and your baby. I don't think that he has any LOVE for you. I really do think that you should move on and find your self a roommate. I wish you the best.