i love her so much it hurts
2007-02-01 10:40:57 · 24 answers · asked by richard b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You cant make anyone do anything. I understand what your saying, but if she has decided it is over, it probably is. You should try to move forward, seek counseling if you are having difficulties and try to stay near family and friends for support. Good Luck.
2007-02-01 10:44:59 · answer #1 · answered by E-Razz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on what caused the breakup, most problems can be solved easily with a little conversation, honesty, respect, love, but if the other person is now involved with another person they won't take u back, until they are done with that person. so it just depends on the cause. she has to begin to see u in a different light, as a stronger more confident person, never beg her back, as she will see it as some sort of a weakness on your part. just distance yourself from her, see how it goes, don't call her, and she might start to miss u, unless there is someone else and than u have bigger problems.
2007-02-01 18:47:36 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on why you 2 divorced in the first place... And if it really love or just the fact that u miss her because you were so used to having her around. But if u do think its possible then just be there for her if she ever needs you and try to help with the little things, they always seem like biggest things to girls. And just make her see y she married u in the first place.
2007-02-01 18:46:08 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. JD!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really depends on how you two got seperated in the first place. if you cheated on her or she left you for another there has to be some serious issues there you two have to talk about. if she just doesn't love you anymore your going to have to swallow that pill and go on. each day it will hurt but it will hurt abit less and less each day til one day you don't feel it as much anymore. ask her if she still loves you and if you two still have a chance, be the guy she fell in love with and not the guy that just thinks of her as your wife. sometimes people grow complacent and forget that they have someone that chooses to be with and not someone who is just there we tend to forget that they can choose to go elsewhere. just think of her as that hot girlfriend that you had and wanted to impress and wow with your affections. dont get into that rut of "oh thats just my wife" and the always famous ways of listening to her paying attention to her and noticing all the silly little things that when you miss them don't seem so silly.
2007-02-01 18:48:31 · answer #4 · answered by James 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you are a changed man and tell her what you said in your question in those exact words cause if I were her I would love to hear that! Keep doing romantic things for her. She wont take on at first but she will eventually give in. She loved you once, she can love you again. You shouldn't have let her get a divorce.
2007-02-01 18:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to talk to her about your feelings. But if she doesn't feel the same way, then the best thing you can do is be her friend, and let her move on, because you can't just make her fall back in love with you. I know it hurts, but that's apart of life.
2007-02-01 18:45:20 · answer #6 · answered by rockangel_72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i have no idea why you 2 are separate, but if you love her, then prove it to her, there are no limits on proving how much you love someone. You look inside your heart you will know what to do, and if you don't get her right away, don't give up, good things come to those who wait! Now get out there and start showing her how much you love her!
2007-02-01 18:45:18 · answer #7 · answered by pippy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, but you obviously did something that drove her away and once women leave, they usually don't come back, unless they were taking some time away from you, but in this case she divorced you and i think that this is permanent. It is the men who come crawling back to the women and want to be taken back.
I would say just try to find another woman and this time don't screw it up!!!!
2007-02-01 21:18:35 · answer #8 · answered by SuzyBelle04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who ended the relationship? and why was it ended? I'm sure it hurts I've been there done that kinda thing.. it hurts I am not gonna deny you that pain....
I got through it by drawing closer to the Lord, maybe you should start reading the Bible, go to church on Sundays, Pray and see what He has to say.
2007-02-01 18:50:50 · answer #9 · answered by kevferg64 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first off what did you do for her to leave? Second have you changed? Third does she feel the same, if she doesnt then your out of luck. Maybe you need to sit down and talk to her ask her on a date and sort threw your issues and see what happens.
2007-02-01 18:44:17 · answer #10 · answered by Alexis221 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋