we're both 19. we're been going out for about 1 year and 7 months...accept 6 months ago her mom died. she was devastated. i was always there for her but she hasn't shown any affection to me....we would still meet up but she'd never kiss me, hug me, nothing! do you think she'll come around or is it over for us....she is an amazing girl and for that year my life was complete, i REALLY don't want to lose her.
2007-02-01 10:39:20 · 12 answers · asked by Mr Sam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Why ask a group of strangers like us?
It's not like she is refusing to see you, talk to you. Yes she's had a tragic loss, so you want to be delicate, but it's time to confront. Get the facts from the source.
2007-02-01 10:45:31 · answer #1 · answered by Alan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its really hard when you lose a parent especially before you've had any type of life changing experiences that you'd want them to be there for. i mean she was 19 thats pretty hard on a girl. i would be there for her some more and then in about maybe a month talk to her about it. see what she does on valentine's day since its coming up. but a death like that is pretty hard to get through. i would just be there for here and maybe talk to her sometime soon but be nice about it. and dont be mean at all because she could be emotionally unstable and just break down even more if she hasnt been showing any affection. maybe you should take her out to a nice dinner and then maybe talk to her about it then. well i hope this helps and good luck!
2007-02-01 10:44:22 · answer #2 · answered by <3iluvluv<3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone you you really love dies, it will take you a long time to get over it. Talk to her. Ask her if she wants to break up. But she is going threw a very hard time these 6 months and you need to be there for her. Comfort her. You can always win her back that way.
2007-02-01 10:59:45 · answer #3 · answered by Hunnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loosing a parent is one of the worst things a person can feel. It is very traumatic. I think you should be concerned about her right now, and not the relationship. Honestly, it may be over.....and with everything else she is dealing with, she may not even realize it. If you really don't want to loose her.........be there for her.Talk to her about what SHE needs right now. Don't talk about the relationship and where it is headed. She probably doesn't want to deal with that right now. She is probably pretty depressed, and needs some counseling.......with a good friend by her side. Good luck!
2007-02-01 11:35:52 · answer #4 · answered by redsoxmom1979 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. Reassure her her mothers in a better place. A place with no pain or suffering. And it would probably hurt her to see her daughter so empty. Live the life your mom never had. Tell her just how much you love her, and how much she means to you. And that when she hurts, you hurt too, and you don't want to hurt anymore
2007-02-01 10:43:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the death of her mother has obviously deeply affected her ... maybe shes afraid now to get too close to anyone in case she loses them and feels the pain again... you have to sit her down and have a talk with her, explain that your here for her and your not going anywhere. she needs your love and reassurance dont give up on her without having a proper talk.
2007-02-01 10:43:59 · answer #6 · answered by Caz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on bro! Go to college and meet some other hotties. You're too young to have all these issues!!
2007-02-01 10:42:09 · answer #7 · answered by Carrie B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is probably going through the stages of grieving. Give it time and be there for her. It helps to have people who care about you to help you move on.
2007-02-01 11:08:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. It's what we humans do. True it sux when your mom dies. But, it's just that. Mom is gone but she aint. Let her know that at this point she needs to be part of you or you're moving on.
Or, on the other hand, she my be done with you....Move on!
2007-02-01 10:45:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sometimes takes a person longer to overcome grief than it do others. Give her a chance and just be there for her, who knows you may be glad you did.
2007-02-01 10:47:34 · answer #10 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋