I Had put my son up for adoption .To this really family that cant have any kids. Im to young to have a baby. I miss him alot. I dont get to see him that much. cause they are really beassy. It s an open adoption. I had no help from the babys dad. im just wanting to know if i did the right thing.
2007-02-01 10:38:49 · 28 answers · asked by muri 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I think you made a great decision, i is very hard to put your baby's needs first, but you did and it sounds great!!! I know it is hard and that you miss him, but why don't you try focusing on how good it is when you get to see him and just remember the good things? Cheer up cuz your baby is fine and very happy, he has everything he needs and you made very happy a couple!
2007-02-01 11:56:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your young and cant support the baby yourself..Im so glad you gave him up for adoption instead of having an abortion. But what you did is something wonderful and that family that adopted him is probably the most thankful family in the world to you right now. And just the fact that you get to see him at all is great..even if it isnt alot be thankful. So dont worry I think what you did takes alot of courage and Im glad you knew when you were over your head. Good luck.
2007-02-01 18:43:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you don't think you were capable of raising the baby, then you did a good thing. There are millions of couples that can't have children out there, and you did the right thing. Just be glad that your baby has a family to give him what he needs. But when your baby gets older, make sure he knows you did this out of love and not hate. A lot of kids think that their parents put them up for adoption because their parents hated them...so make sure your baby knows that.
2007-02-01 18:52:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You made a tough decision. You should be proud of yourself for what you did. I'm sure your son would be happy his mum thought enough of him to make such a hard decision. Be proud of yourself for caring so much about him, you didn't have an abortion you chose to give your son a life, you are young but you made a very mature decision. You are a brave girl. You love your son and what you did proves that, over time you might feel a bit better. Stay in contact with him even if you don't see him much at least you see him sometimes. You did a wonderful thing for him and you sound like a wonderful person to make such a decision good on you for caring so much be proud.
2007-02-01 21:16:28 · answer #4 · answered by bulldogfish 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetie you did an amazing thing. You made a couple very happy and gave them a beautiful baby. You are very strong. Like you said your too young to have a baby. You still get to see him just not as often as you would like.
You didnt have any help from his father and that made it a million times worse. Your too young to have a job, go to school and raise a baby. Your just at the age where you can go out without having your parents up your butt all the time.
You still get to see him and chances are hes probably really happy with that family and they can give him a lot more then you could. Just go out and have fun with your friends and make time to see him as much as possible call the family and make plans like two weeks in advance. ....and if your going to keep having sex please be very careful. I hope you feel better. and dont worry you did something very amazing that most woman cant even do.
xxoxJenn
2007-02-01 18:49:23 · answer #5 · answered by Jenn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you did the right thing but I am so so sorry that you also have to feel the loss. It is wonderful that it is an open adoption. The adoptive family maybe doesn't want to have you see him too often because they sense it is painful for you and it is painful for them too. They are bonding with him and you already did that bonding.
I know that it must be a huge blessing for you to know that he is safe and loved. As he grows up, he will know you gave birth to him and you can always see him. He is in a loving home; try to think about how much love he is getting from his parents. God bless you.
2007-02-04 20:21:56 · answer #6 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a better decision than most in your situation. Although I am pro-choice I feel that giving up an unwanted pregnancy is a much more difficult struggle than abortion. I also feel that a baby deserves parents that can give them the best, and as a young mother life would probably be so hard it would affect you and the child negatively. You made a wonderful decision, and blessed a couple with the greatest gift.
2007-02-01 18:46:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is your son getting all the care and love he needs? I think you did the best thing for him. You loved him so much, you gave him to people who could give him the best in life. It's great you get to know how he is doing. I can't imagine how much you must miss him, but i think you did the right thing. You are a very caring parent. Don't let anyone tell you that you did wrong. Keeping him when you could not provide for him would have been hard on you and your son. Good luck to you.
2007-02-01 18:46:13 · answer #8 · answered by misty n justin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
though it isvery hard for you and always will be, it was best for you and child to go through with the adoption. the open adoption is very helpful but it will also make you realize how much you love and miss the child. i would hope that the new parents will be more considerate in the future and allow more visits. but remember that it is hard on them as well. you made the right decision. take advantage of your opertunity, go to college, make something of your self many teens that have children never get the chance.
2007-02-01 18:49:59 · answer #9 · answered by Charlee S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can answer yes to the first three and no to the last one then yes you made the right decision
1. Is he happy?
2. Is he well taken care of?
3. Is he loved by you and his adoptive parents?
4. Could you have provided for him when he first came to this world?
His happiness and well being is thee most important over anything else, and you are the strongest most amazing person to sacrifice your wants and needs for him
2007-02-01 18:52:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋