My now ex bf and I had a huge falling out, its very complicated but jist the same he was at fault, and it ended our relationship. After , I wanted to remain friends with him, because deep down I know he has a good heart. He told me he didnt like to fight with me either, but he wasn't a great friend. And he decided he didnt want to have anything to do with me. I dont know if he is ashamed, feels guilty, but he was not even able to talk to me for more then 2 minutes. I got really angry at him and felt like he walked all over me..again. So, after some time, I called him today and left him a message and told him I forgive him, not because thats what I want him to hear, but because this is who I am. I am a forgiving person, but this time, I made it clear and told him we should cut ties completely. I just wanted him to know. I'm done with the drama and what happened and it dragged me down. I am a forgiving person and being mean and holding grudges doesn't make me stronger it makes
2007-02-01 10:16:36 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
me weaker and sad. SO this time I did do it for me and for him. I wanted to know, though. What do you think about an ex -gf that does this?? For me it felt right. My friends tell me I should have let him really think about it all and let him call me. But its over, and I have been in therapy b/c of this whole situation. If you knew me, I couldnt continue on this way.
2007-02-01 10:18:40 · update #1
I salute you.
Most people hold grudges when they break up.
It's refreshing to hear someone who doesn't.
2007-02-01 10:28:49 · answer #1 · answered by Panama Jack 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you are in a relationship were one person is carrying the whole emotional load ,that you should move on in try to be a happier person even if that means being alone.
2007-02-01 18:25:57 · answer #2 · answered by jaimipjaimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you did what you needed to do to have closure with the relationship. Now it is time to move on, learn from the past and embrace the future with new hope and expectations.
2007-02-01 19:38:23 · answer #3 · answered by SunFun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats very big of you. I wish my ex could have been that strong. Instead, because of her pride, we cant even be friends.
2007-02-01 18:25:44 · answer #4 · answered by budhagan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋