I Need Somebody's Help that's in the Law!!!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

What Extreeme measures you Need to take if someone is: Stalking you to See if your getting on the Bus to go Home, but the guy she has a Crush on drives the bus and she thinks Im after him, Spreads Rumors to the College I go to and she only Went there to Drag me down along with my Good name and Made a scene Today and called me a Whore and all the names in the book, Which Im not in Front of the Dean of students of the College, Also wants everything I Want, Like a guy, clothes, etc. She has 6 kids and her Aunt usually takes care of them while she goes out and Tries to rekindle her youth because she's 32 but doesn't Look it and DEFIANTLY doesn't act her age, She's just Plain crazy and the Guy Kevin that Drives the City bus said he Would get a restraining Order on her because she's Been harrassing him on his Job because he "Wouldn't answer his phone" while at Work, etc. Its a mess and my Life has been a mess associated with this Psycho, Advice Plz!! Anybody in the law Can give me Some Help?

Answer 1

I suppose it's easy to see why no lawyer has responded if you re-read this now that you have calmed down a bit.

No, it is not possible to take these kinds of things to the law. There's nothing specific that you can focus on here, except that you and this woman cannot stand one another. Fine. Stay away from her, and if she refuses to stay away from you, then you can get a restraining order. That basically takes calling the police and making an even bigger deal out of it, and getting a whole lot of other people resenting you because you took your personal matter to the law.

There is a social skill which I call acceptance. Accept the fact without liking it or disliking it, but simply acknowledging that it is a fact. It is a fact that not everyone can like you. Not everyone can even avoid disliking you. It comes from conflicting goals, from envy and jealousy, and from all sorts of turmoil inside a person that has nothing to do with you directly.

The issue here is plain: the woman is 32, her life is a mess, and she is imagining that this bus driver could solve all her problems. However, you are younger and probably a good bit prettier, and whether you are after him or not, he responds pleasantly to you. Certainly you are not to be blamed in any way for being younger and prettier, or having a nicer personality (mere sanity would seem to be enough to ace that one!) than she is. Envy of you and jealousy regarding the bus driver are driving her bonkers. But if it wasn't you, it would be some other girl. Maybe she's as hostile to several younger girls.

Of course she wants everything you want; she wishes she were you. Envy is not an easy thing to accept, because if you acknowledge it to a third party ("I've decided she's envious of me."), it comes off as an inflated ego on your part. Having an IQ noticeably above-average myself, I went around envying your kind for being slim and pretty while your type went around envying me my grade point average. I would have traded, had they only known. They probably would not have agreed, of course. And if a pretty girl also has real intelligence: well, you know the blond jokes? They are a cover for "pretty girl" jokes, if you think about it.

We tend to envy what we do not have while discounting the significance of what we have. You never had to say that you are younger and prettier than her; it's in every line of the description, but you dare not simply say it, do you? I can, but you can't. Just as I am completely anathema for admitting my IQ is high, but would be even worse if I said something like "I'm smarter than most everyone I meet."

Problem with that is when you accept that you are the prettiest girl in the room, you have to accept that the men are going to notice that. If you do not deal with that with real grace and dignity, you may as well throw your arms out and shout: "Look at me! I'm the prettiest girl in the room! Worship me!"

Think they would? Think they SHOULD?