Ok my wife is currently in iraq. She has been there for 10 months so far. The other day she asked me to send her some civilian clothes because she was going on R/R in baghdad. She ask me to send her thongs. I don't know how to take this. I think women wear thongs to have them seen by someone. Is she cheating on me? I also found an email from her to her freind saying how this guys there was hot and that he feels the same way about her. she says she told him that she was married and that he respects that. What do I do?
2007-02-01 09:29:37 · 25 answers · asked by jeremy z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Divorce time. What the hell do you think she is doing in Iraq? It's so obvious it hurts.
2007-02-01 09:33:24 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
First, be up-front about your fears. Don't send the thong if that's what you think it's for. Tell her that you came across the email. My wife and I have each other's email passwords. When she asks me what something in my email is all about, I don't care, and same for her and me. We have nothing to hide. Some couples are not as forward with each other, so if you're not, you may have to find a way to make it more innocent that you found that email. But if she said that the other guy respects that she's married, then that means she's not cheating *now.* Best to get your concerns put out now.
2007-02-01 09:52:00 · answer #2 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should send her some huge granny panties instead and tell her that she has no business wearing thongs in Iraq. My question is how you "found" the email to her friend. And I've respected people's relationships in the past, but I still had sex with them....it wasn't my problem. This chick has been over there for 10 months and is probably horny as hell with all those hot soldier guys running around and the guys are definitely horny as hell, so I'm pretty sure she'll be banging this guy before too long. You should start packing her crap now so she can hit the bricks when she gets home.
2007-02-01 09:37:00 · answer #3 · answered by Huh? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i wouldn't be as worried about the thongs as i would the e mail she sent her friend, about the guy she thought was hot, and that he feels the same about her, she says he respects her marriage? nothing u can do about anything, but trust her, and try not to get too upset, as there isn't much one can do, with a wife so far away. u will never know if she is cheating on u or not, all u can do is tell her u love her, and have faith she isn't.
2007-02-01 10:10:15 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably not cheating.
Women like to wear thongs also due to the NO VPL (visible panty line). Not to mention, there is NOTHING wrong with looking your best and she should definitely have as many chances to feel "hot" while she's in Iraq. Those chances are probably few & far between.
I say trust her. She's not cheating... It's possible she might be flirting, but that should really be just fine too.
2007-02-01 09:33:06 · answer #5 · answered by Miz D 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Dude, ask her what is up with the thongs, there could be a perfectly logical explanation. Would she cheat on you, how long have you been maried, has she cheated before? When you talk do not let on that you suspect this. Make comments that would make her miserable if she was cheating (tell her you remembered x intimate moment yesterday and etc). Women are emotional, they will tell all if you can make them feel guilty enough.
2007-02-01 09:38:53 · answer #6 · answered by Wes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because she wants thongs doesn't mean shes cheating, some women just find them more comfortable, lets face it shes just asking for some underwear, not "protection" etc. If you trust your wife you shouldn't be asking these questions! Besides she's over in Iraq protecting your country!!!
2007-02-01 09:35:52 · answer #7 · answered by sparkley_fairy18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't jump to conclusions. Things are never exactly as they may seem. Lots of women wear thong underwear to prevent the dreaded VPL (visible panty lines) or maybe she just wants to feel pretty after wearing fatigues for ten months. Try not to worry.
2007-02-01 09:36:11 · answer #8 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that she wants to feel normal for a day or two. but things happen in the military, and a lot of strange things can happen in a place like Iraq. If you over do it, you may push her right into the thing you think may already be happening.
2007-02-01 09:37:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it gets really lonely when you're in a foreign country and in a war zone no less.
Chances are that she's picked up a lil somethin on the side.
Probablly best not to send the thongs.
You could send her some big granny panties with a note saying...wanted you to be comfy! lol
Good luck.
2007-02-01 09:35:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be glad that the guy respects your marriage. Tell your wife that yoou wear her thongs over your head at night when you sleep because you miss her so much, and think they are special for you
2007-02-01 09:33:04 · answer #11 · answered by Dave ! 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋