how to stop feeling like killing myself?

Question

every little thing upsets me....I hate life...
I don't know what to do....
I hate being fat....WHATEVER I do it don't seem that I will lose weight and it don't seem I will get married this year like my man and I plan to do after I would lose the weight...... it is not all about the weight...I'm just NOT happy in general...

Answer 1

Everybody goes through these feelings sometimes. I was suicidal at one point for about 5 or 6 years, so youre not alone. You need to find the things that make you feel good about yourself.Why did you and your boyfriend decide to get married only after you lose weight? I hope this wasn't his idea, because if it was, he's intensifying your problem, he's only making you feel worse about yourself, like he'll only marry you if you're thinner, and you need to realize that he's not going to be a very good husband, spouse's build each other up, not bring each other down.If he doesn't love you the way you are now, he doesn't truly love you. If it was your idea, then you must feel that you won't be beautiful on your wedding day unless you are thinner. And theres only two ways to resolve that. Either begin to accept yourself the way you are, or change what you don't like about yourself. To lose weight, it's alot of hard work. But if you really want to lose weight, that feeling should drive you harder than the feeling of it being too difficult.If you truly wanted to kill yourself, I don't beleive you would have written in. You're calling out for help because you want things to change.If you want to lose weight, you'll have to do alot of cardiovascular excersizing. Simple walking works great. As well as running, trampoline, jump rope, climbing stairs, etc. Anything that keeps your heart rate up is a cardio workout. They're easy because ther's really no formula for the right way to do it. Keep your heart rate up for at least 20 minutes at least 3 days a week. The more days and the longer you do it the better. Start slowly though and work your way up, always stay at a comfortable pace, you don't want to hurt yourself. It takes time and dedication, but you CAN lose weight- look at how many people have done it! It just takes the dedication- don't give up. Trust me once you start seeing results, you'll be so excited that that will be your driving force for you to continue on.You can also join women's gyms who help people like you all the time.And there are also ALOT of fat burning pills on the market that help the process, but don't use these in replace of excersize, or you'll just gain all the weight back. Talk to your doctor about them first. Diet also plays a major part. My hubby and I only eat meat once a week, and it's always only chicken, turkey, or fish- no red meat. Meat is very fattening. We load up on the fresh fruits and veggies and grains. This is how I went from a size 12 after 3 kids down to a size 6- I could fit into my wedding dress again! Of course you also know about the need to have few sweets as well.That's mainly the formula for weight loss- excersize more, eat healthier.
But be happy. My way of living is simple.I draw in the things that make me happy, and I move away from the things that don't- including negative emotions. The more you change a negative emotion to a positive one, your brain will actually begin to reprogram itself into thinking on a positive level almost all the time. That's actually a scientific fact( Watch a movie called "What the Bleep Do we Know?" It's awesome, even if the title's a little strange).Thinking positive will get easier and easier every time. If something doesn't make you happy, make another choice next time. If it's beyond your control, choose to be happy anyways- because that's all you CAN do.Find your happiness again. Make the right changes in your life to bring out your happiness again. You can do it. Because you are in control of your life. Don't be somewhere you don't want to be.I read a great book that changed my outlook on life- you should check it out. It's called "the peaceful Warrior" by Dan Millman. I hope I helped. Email me if you ever need someone to talk to!!!!!

Answer 2

I know you have probably heard this before, but suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. It is not worth it. Please think about all the people you will be hurting. Even contemplating it is not healthy. You should definitely seek help. You can go to a doctor and maybe get counseling. There are so many ways out there right now to help battle depression and so many people suffer from it. There is a healthy, safe option to help you get through this. Who knows, maybe if you start feeling emotionally better, you can become more confident and change physically. God made you the way you are for a reason and you should embrace that. When I get down, I think of people out there who are starving and dont know when their next meal will come, or those who are terminally ill or missing a leg or other deformity. It is sad but it is reality.Just know that there is more to you than what is on the outside. Be strong and confident...it will get you through.

Answer 3

hi there sorry you're feeling so down at the minute, it looks like you've got a lot going on in your life right now that you're unable to control. sometimes it helps to deal with one problem at a time rather than tackle them all at once. look at each of these points you've made and ask yourself 'can i do anything about this right now?' if you can then look at ways in which you can try and resolve it. if not, put it to one side and focus on the next. gaining some control can boost your confidence and give you a better outlook. its hard, but try and list even the smallest of positives you have in your life right now. have you spoken to your gp? it can be quite daunting, but your gp wont judge you. they may provide you with some medication alongside therapy. I'm not sure where you are from, but in england the go to therapy recommended by gp's is 'first step' which is a cognitive behavioural therapy, which will try to change your thought patterns. i also recommend the samaritans you can call them 24 hours a day 7 days a week, they cannot give advice but they do offer a confidential listening service for those who are distressed/suicidal. you will find the phone number on google. i hope this helps a little. your life means something, Hope you are able to stay strong :)

Answer 4

I understand how you feel. A number of years ago I was lying on my floor, afraid to stand up because I thought if I did, I would run straight to the window and dive out.

It turned out that my problem was depression. There were some imbalances in my brain chemistry and as a result, I habitually allowed my thoughts to be drawn to the most negative ideas.

I was fortunate in finding help in the form of a doctor who prescribed a medication for me that helped to balance the chemicals, and at the same time lead me to realize that I could change the way I thought, and thereby the way I feel.

Depression is a common illness, and I do stress that it is an illness, and as such can be treated. I would encourage you to find help as soon as possible. There's no need to feel uncomfortable about asking for help. Whatever you do, I'm in your corner.

Feel free to contact me if I can answer any of your questions.

Answer 5

If you feel like you want to kill yourself, you should probably seek counseling immediately. In counseling, you can explore some of the things that could make you happy or satisfied.

Additionally, you may want to see your primary care physician, who can help you find resources for losing weight, if this is one of your issues. Your doctor can also prescribe antidepressants for you, if you need them.

Answer 6

It is about the weight!!!!!! it is causing you to have low self worth and keeping you for experiencing joy and happiness.So either come to peace with your weight or get kicking and take charge of you life and lose that weight!!!!!!

Answer 7

You're not unhappy because you're fat, you're fat because you're unhappy.

Change your life. See a counselor, start doing things that you like doing. Stop eating to make yourself feel better, it doesnt work. Get outside. If you cant excercise, then walk.

Your life is in YOUR hands, no one elses.

Answer 8

am very sorry to hear that.. but the best way to get better is to be kinder to yourself.. i mean would it be fair if your man was unhappy and always put himself down about his weight and about his life? would you think it was fair on himself for him to do tht to himself? welll?? stop doing it to yourself.. enjoy life.. look at other people they are either starving or awfully poor or they have missing limbs.. believe me you are a very lucky girl and its time you see that

Answer 9

Try Jesus Christ. I was a walking time bomb until I gave my heart to the Lord and learned how to love myself, through His love, and how to love life as He meant for us to.