Try being married to someone who wakes up, gets online and plays from that point to the time that he falls asleep at his keyboard, which is wee hours of the morning, sometimes after I leave for school at 6am. I get up and leave, hes either playing or asleep. I come home, he's playing. I eat by myself, I watch tv by myself, I do EVERYTHING by myself. Ive told him time and time again to spend time with me. I get mad and we fight, but it solves nothing. Talk about your marriage and sex life going down the drain..
2007-02-01 09:22:43 · 7 answers · asked by tongueleaded99 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes, I have a character and ive tried to play with him. It doesnt work for me. Im taking college classes full time..5 classes..three Tues and Thurs and one mon night one wed night. I have 0 time to spend on the game. I take school seriously. Hes in school as well and has missed classes because of the game.
2007-02-01 11:10:02 · update #1
Your marriage can't and shouldn't last like this. You will have to make the choice. He obviously loves the game more than you. What's your choice?
2007-02-01 09:31:42 · answer #1 · answered by Thegustaffa 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is becoming a common problems these days. One spouse will become hoooked on something on the net and spend all their time on the computer. I know - it happened to me! I think being on the net, no matter what you're doing on it, can indeed become an addiction. And it is very hard to break it. I wasn't able to - I'm still online alot after 9 years!
The only way I was able to solve the problem was to divorce my husband, who had no interest in being on the net and find a new husband online, who spends as much time on the computer as me! {laughing} It's worked out pretty good - we sit side by side, each with our own computer doing our own thing on the net and having a great time - it's been 8 years now!
I can honestly say that there was nothing my ex could have done to break my net addiction. If he had joined me in it, our marriage may not have fallen apart. So the only thing I can think of for you to try is to join him. Ask him to teach you how to play at W.O.W. and take an interest in it.
Then tell him that you want to come up with a plan to hold your marriage together. That you will be willing to give so much of your time each day to playing on the net with him, but in return, you expect him to give you the same amount of time doing things with you in real life. Hopefully he'll agree and you can slowly start turning things around into a more even balance. If he totally is against doing anything to help your marriage, then I guess the only thing left is give him an ultimatium - me or the computer. But be prepared for him to pick the computer.
Good luck,
Royann
2007-02-01 17:53:54 · answer #2 · answered by Ruby V 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's one thing playing the game for enjoyment, and another is to be hopelessly and dysfunctionally addicted to it. It sounds like your husband's situation is the latter. My husband and I both play this game, yet neither of us is addicted, and we manage ourselves just fine. At this point, he needs to admit that there is a problem, and try to take steps to solve it. If he's in denial, there isn't much YOU can do about it - you can't reason with a person who is dysfunctional, and has no desire to change. It's stupid to for someone to tell you - "well, at least you know where he is"; he might as well be absent from your life altogether - if all he does is play the game, it's like you don't even have a husband. I know what you mean, too - I've seen my brother-in-law spend hours in back-to-back raids and PVP; but he's young, single, and lives with his parents; I can't imagine him having a wife.
You may need to seriously consider leaving him. If he's not willing to combat his addiction, you will be wasting your time if you wait around for him to "change". With Blizzard planning to release an expansion every year, there will always be new dungeons to explore. You can't make him give it up, but at least you can make a choice to start off fresh, and leave him in the dust. Good luck.
2007-02-01 18:16:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
On the one hand, you know where your husband is - he's not gambling away your retirement money, drinking or beating you or the kids, and his habit only costs $15 per month.
It could be worse.
Has it occurred to you to try the game? You might like it, and enjoy playing with him.
2007-02-01 17:27:46 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard of this happening before. Im sorry that it is happening to you . If you want to save your marriage get rid of the internet. Especially if the only way he is contributing to the marriage is by sitting playing WoW all day!
2007-02-01 17:28:18 · answer #5 · answered by Texas_tangent 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A couple guys in my guild have actually received the ultimadum "your family or the game".
One has acutally received divorce papers with that ultimadum.
He chose his family.
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2007-02-04 22:04:24 · answer #7 · answered by poijhutg p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋