My dad constantly finds fault with everything! He is OCD and obsessed with cleanliness. I came home the other day and my entire room was reorganized in a way that I did not appreciate AT ALL and it took me forever to get everything back the way it was. And every day when I get home from school I am pelted with a list of my faults (i.e. I have a cup in my room, my trash needs emptied when there's like one thing in it, etc.)! I am turning 17 tomorrow and I can't stand it much longer, what can I do about it? He is also super-sensitive and will literally give me the "silent-treatment" any time I mention it.
2007-02-01 09:20:24 · 10 answers · asked by ღღღ 7 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
wow, honey. that is tough.
well, why dont you try to suggest new ways of how the room should look to him. think on the bright side, he is still your father.
the key element right now is be patient, sweety. relax and forget about it. ok?
stacy, happy birthday!
2007-02-01 13:40:30 · answer #1 · answered by cool nerd 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the bookstore or library and get a book for your dad on ocd and for yourself on how to deal with people in your life that have ocd. I know there are books out there. Theres an author by the name of Edmund Bourne, PHD. Look for one of his workbooks-they are very helpful. And, most of all, remember that your dad has a disease-it is no different from any other disease-he doesn't do those things to hurt you. He can't help it. Once you accept that, and get some kind of help on how to cope-you should do fine. The first step is asking for help-and thats what you've done. Now-follow through-get the outside help that you need and make your life better for you!
2007-02-01 17:31:32 · answer #2 · answered by greysannatomyfan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all.... Happy B-day tomorrow!
Second, dad has issues. Since he's probably not going to change, i'd learn to adapt and deal with it for the next year or so till you are out of the house at college.
I will say this... I don't think he's respecting your personal space. And to that, I might be inclined to have a talk with him about that. If he gives you the silent treatment, so what... that's his problem, not yours. It's not a very adult way to deal with problems...but what can you do.
Again, lots of luck & have a super B-day. Your dad loves you even if he is OCD....
< peace >
2007-02-01 17:28:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I remember butting heads with my dad all the time. I used to get nailed like you, having all my faults pointed out to me all the time. My dad passed away 3 1/2 yrs ago and I miss butting heads with him, believe it or not. He always put me in my place. Just deal with it for another year or two, when you can move out on your own. I don't think your dad realizes his daughter is growing up and becoming her own woman. By the way, happy birthday. Have a good one.
2007-02-01 17:35:00 · answer #4 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could maybe run around and do everything before he asks or says anything? or if its legal ( don't know if it is where you are from ) get a friend and see about renting a room together to move out ?
2007-02-01 17:27:52 · answer #5 · answered by hayden_jaylit 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stacey dear ..
Our parents are the only persons that we can never change and complain about ...you have nothing to do except trying to be respectful as long as you live with him ,believe me it's not that hard ,I lost my father few years ago and I wish he was still alive even though he was aggressive most of the times ...
2007-02-01 17:31:03 · answer #6 · answered by BluE RosE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move out
2007-02-01 17:28:09 · answer #7 · answered by Rickey W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow he sounds like a pain in the ar$e. Maybe he could get a job or something and get out of your life? Just a thought.
2007-02-01 17:25:08 · answer #8 · answered by Adrian Wapkaplett 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where is your mom? Can she talk to him? He sounds like either he needs meds or you both need counselling to figure out how you can live with this.
2007-02-01 17:26:50 · answer #9 · answered by kitten lover3 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can try to move out.
2007-02-01 17:26:12 · answer #10 · answered by khanofali 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋