WEll I was in a relationship for 3 1/2yrs on and off and I finally decided to break up with him. I was doin fine with it and today I see him leaving his house and I just started crying because he left with some friends.. All I keep trying to think is that I'm better off with out him but then I keep thinkin he's having sex with some 1 else.. it hurts me soo bad.. He lives right next door to me so its like I can't help but to look to see where he is and if he is outside.. I have anxiety issues so I dont feel like leaving my house or anything... And I dont even have a job.. So please help me.. im just soo sad now and all I can do is cry.. but to me Im not ready to get into a relationship.. I loved him soo much but it just wasn't a good relationship between him and I and I got sick of it and had to leave him..
2007-02-01 09:16:56 · 3 answers · asked by Sexi baby girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The problem is that when things end, we remember the good. We neglect to see what's good when we are in it. We focus on what's missing, why things are not working out. If it worked before why can't it work again? You are upset b/c you see him moving on with life, like you had no effect on him at all. It would probably feel better if you knew he was just as miserable as you. In time you will realize why you made that decision. Unfortunately it takes time, we all want a quick fix, but you may feel like you are not doing anything, but you are going through the grieving process. Don't get into a relationship now, you are not ready. It would be good if you just took time to focus on yourself, what you want in a relationship, coming to a conclusion, and when you least expect it. You will be okay. Put your name out there that you are single. You are a catch as well. You will have suitors coming your way in no time.
2007-02-01 09:27:40 · answer #1 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's absolutely no fun to do what you did. But, good for you. There is no way to "do" it but to just go through the process. You'll feel all sorts of things--anger, regret, wishes that things had been different, fantasies perhaps about what he's doing or what he did. Those feelings are your friends, because as you feel them, they'll be released. Cry if you feel like it--tears help release the feelings. All those things are normal and part of the process. Try to always keep in mind that you are a good, worthwhile, valuable, and lovable person. Don't try to hurry the process--it takes as long as it takes.
2007-02-01 17:27:55 · answer #2 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you broke up. I know it hurts, but it shouldn't matter if he is intimate with somebody else. It sounds as though you were very dependant on him to make you happy. Go out to a club or just out to dinner with some friends. He is obviously not miserable about this situation, so why are you?
2007-02-01 17:25:28 · answer #3 · answered by sayruh02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋