my best friend of ten years asked me to add a line on to my contracta year ago well she was only able to pay the bill for 2 months after running it up to 400.00. so i put the phone on vacation now in oct 06 i let her try again and now she's 3 months behind and promised to pay when she got her tax refund. well she has gottent that and some and i'm still left with a 350.00 bill from her downloads and overage. this morning i called and had that line suspended and changed passwords and everything. i tried expressing to her that i cant afford it and she kept promising to pay what would you have done
2007-02-01 09:02:42 · 12 answers · asked by mrs_womble2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She's not your friend. She's a mooch. You do her a favor and now she's complaining to you? Get better friends. You deserve better.
2007-02-01 09:07:20 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have done exactly what you have done.I think a true friend would have made the effort to pay you something weekly or used the phone as little as possible because she knew she couldn't really afford it. If she had to make phone calls she should have used a pay phone.She has promised a couple of times to give you the money and nothing has happened so I think you can say goodbye to the money!! The phone bill should have been a priority because you were her best friend. Obviously she thought the friendship was so good that you would allow her to run up a bill and not worry about it. If the bill is in your name then you're the one who has to pay it. She knew this and, I think, that's why she wasn't too worried about using the phone or paying the bill. Don't feel guilty. The only thing you've done wrong is to help a friend.She's not much of a friend if she does things like this to you!!!!
2007-02-01 09:20:37 · answer #2 · answered by Moira S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, why are you so worried about her? She obviously doesn't give a crap about you or that you consistently tell her you can't keep paying for these bills. She is using you as a doormat, and you are letting her. Don't put up with friends like that, no matter how long the friendship has lasted. All things come to an end.
2007-02-01 09:10:01 · answer #3 · answered by sayruh02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's someone you like, but just doesn't know or can't learn how to manage money, you can still be friends. If she's a manipulative, conniving person, you're better off to dump her and move on.
Either way, don't EVER let her use your cell phone contract again. Tell her to get a prepaid cell phone. That way she HAS to pay for the minutes before she can use them, and when they run out, the phone goes dead.
2007-02-01 09:08:35 · answer #4 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one since she took advantage of your friendship. You should have her sign promissory note saying that she must pay you back the outstanding amount with interest. If you still want to keep in touch with her after all is said and done, then that's fine too but if it were me, it would take a long time before I could trust her again.
2007-02-01 09:12:41 · answer #5 · answered by mauinei34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't afford it, then don't let her have a line on your contract anymore. She can get her own contract or get a prepaid.
Don't end the friendship; just explain that you are out money over calls you didn't make and you can't afford it. If she chooses to end your friendship over it, she wasn't a very good friend to begin with.
2007-02-01 09:08:14 · answer #6 · answered by Trisha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she has genuine financial problems, then you are wrong to break her off. But if she is blatantly taking advantage and expresses no genuine intention to pay, then you're right to break her off. But the way you did it by changing passwords behind her back, thats wasn't very friend-like. You should have atleast expressed your intention to cut the line and made that clear.
2007-02-01 09:10:48 · answer #7 · answered by macy411 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing you did. Only don't go back this time and have her pay for what she owes. Keep phone records and if you don't have them request them. If she does not pay take her to small claims. It's a crappy situation and it sucks that your going threw it but hopefully things will settle theirselves and you'll still be able to maintain a friendship.
2007-02-01 09:11:52 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it was a good idea to deactivate her phone but I don't think I would end the friendship entirely, every friendship has it icebergs. :)
2007-02-01 09:07:02 · answer #9 · answered by iluvmyself676 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd have stopped after getting stung the first time. Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.
2007-02-01 09:13:08 · answer #10 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋