Im in 9th grade, have ALOT of friends, friends with lots of guys, but ive been afraid to ask guys out!!! Im afraid of
1.rejection 2. the drama that will follow,
seriousily, ive never asked a guy out, all the ones ive dated, have asked me out,
i WANT to be able to ask them out htough!!! can anyone give me some advice, why i SHOULD do it, and personal stories, ANYTHING thta can help me!
thanks!
2007-02-01 08:52:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
i wouldnt ask a guy out i just thinks its the guys job to do it...and you might get a lot of people laughin at you because you asked him out...but what you could do is get your friends to ask the guy if he likes and if yes they can just tell him how much you like him and then he might ask you out...ok just go for it and ask him when your alone together....if they rejected you just say it was a dare and you were only jokin and that you were to close to go out than you wont be so embarrased at rejection...good luck
2007-02-01 08:56:58 · answer #1 · answered by blonde_on_site 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i'm in 10th grade, but i've never asked a girl out, (I'm a guy) but if you ask him when he's alone, in the hallway, or when there's not too many people, and he's interested in listening to you. ask him directly what he thinks of you, and if he want to go out with you, and don't be scared, and try not to be too shy, but on the other hand not too direct, jsut think of what he would feel is right he's not gonna reject you unless you act like a goof, or if you're too shy, if he dos, then he's not to be your friend, or boyfriend.
I recommend for you to wait before you have a boyfriend, because what it's all about is to be more than best friend, it's about soulmate, and love for each other, so you should think that the people you want to have a date with shouldn't be just a good friend, have some fun time, and then you break up, it' should be to have a great relationship.
For me, i wait before i date. lol
It's just not me, I prefer to wait to have a good life, be independent, and find a soulmate.
2007-02-01 17:01:00 · answer #2 · answered by adrienguychristian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are scared just go up to the guy and say "Hey wanna go out sometime" It works like a charm and getting rejected is not so bad! trust me! Just look confident and approach the guy! From: Tiny Turtle
2007-02-01 17:11:43 · answer #3 · answered by TennisChick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think every girl knows what your feeling even the ones who u think hav LOTS of self esteem. im pretty sure we all r afraid of something bad happpening. and all the guys ive dated have been the asker cuz its nerve racking to make the first move because of all the fear. plus thers no drama worse than school drama! but ther are some girls that just dont care whther or not they get turned down then ther is the MAJORITY who do. first off i suggest, it sounds weird, but listen to the gossip like first see if he likes u. hav one of his friends casualy ask him how he feels about you. if your positive that he does like u and u talk to him, casually bring up hangin out sometime alone or with a group but make it subtle. act laid back about it, NOT eager so it seems like your not pushing or pressuring him. u should ask guys out because some guys make like u but r just naturally shy. WAY too shy to ask someone out so sometimes whether we like it or not its up to us to make the first move praying its the right one.
Good luck! i hope this helped a lil bit!
2007-02-01 17:03:08 · answer #4 · answered by beautyq 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah...make sure there's something there and your not just wasting your breath when you ask him. just ask him out on a date or to chill with you and he might say yes. get a little conversation in on the date. talk about your relationship status at one point and ask if he's dating anyone or interested in anyone specific...hopefully he won't be and then you can see if he's interested in you...it'll work out. don't worry. the worst that can happen is that he'll say no...just move on after that and look for a hotter and cooler guy...
2007-02-01 16:57:19 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Victoria♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if the guy says no, it is still a major ego boost for him no matter who you are and so he probably won't insult you or do anything to make you feel worse (as is the common fear), he'll probably respect the fact you had the guts to ask.
So go ahead, there's nothing to lose.
2007-02-01 16:57:56 · answer #6 · answered by amtghota 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like a guy just ask him (Ive never asked out anyone either) but just be yourself and yeah there probably will be drama but it'll go over.
2007-02-01 16:57:03 · answer #7 · answered by pony girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should mak sure that the guy is dateable first. Then you should like make sure that you like the guy enougha nd YOU KNOW that this wil not make your friendship awkard. i have been rejected before and actually it isnt that bad. You just need to look confident when you do it! Thats it really.
2007-02-01 16:57:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well here's one she wanted to get to get her but she couldn't because she knew if her parents found out she would be punished but she loved him dearly so one day she asked him out and a few years later they were married with 1 dog and 2 kids.
2007-02-01 16:59:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not be nervous or afraid of rejection. most guys ask out gals not the other away round go and enjoy life. but what ever happens be comfortable in your comfort Zone.
2007-02-01 16:59:03 · answer #10 · answered by Elvis 109 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋