why wont my husband have sex with me?

Question

when we first met the sex was good and now i cant hardly get him to touch me or anything is it me or the change in his man hood. It seems like he's not interested in sex and why is this. what can i do to make him notice me.

Answer 1

Firstly you can tell him how you feel

Answer 2

Forlorn Hope...you are bad, bad, bad! LOL

I wouldn't say that's he's cheating but it could be the case. But it could be other reasons, like....do you have a new baby? Has there been any big changes lately? Are you different in any way? Like maybe you used to do your hair, makeup and now you don't??? Do you show interest? Do you try to start anything up with him? Or are you just waiting for him to do something?

Maybe try to make him a nice dinner, some drinks, and lead the way and hopefully he'll follow.

Or try reading a book, both of you about sex and relationships. Maybe he's just bored if it's the same thing over and over again. Maybe if you guys try some new and different things it might help. Now, I'm not saying go and have a threesome, just new things between the two of you in the bedroom. =)

Answer 3

hmm sounds like he has found another interest.. like hunting.. and not the four legged deer either.. maybe you should do the same and see how he likes it. this is such a common complaint between men and women.. it seems even if a man nor a woman has a high sex drive they could still make their mates feel like they are desirable.. I dont know.. what to really tell you but i know that a lot of times guys have already found another lover or a woman has done the same.. I suppose ill be honest and just say talk to him and tell him it makes you feel insecure and unattractive and see how he reacts and go from there..

Answer 4

He may be suffering from a low libido. He may have other addictions (like in the case of my spouse) that you don't know about, and he's living in a fantasy world where he satisfies himself. You can' t "make him notice" you. All you can do, is tell him how you're feeling about it, and see if he'll be open with you.
If he won't, then maybe do a little investigating to see if something else is going on.

Answer 5

Have you talked with him? Is the rest of your marriage in a good place? Do you share things with him? Would he feel inadequate around you if something was physically wrong with him? How old is he? Is he stressed at work? Has he had any major life changes?

Answer 6

Different people have different sex drives/sex attitudes. There are lots of people in the same boat as you, they meet at a support group called SWAGE. Come join us, you'll find people that really understand what you are going through.

Answer 7

My reasons for why men do not want to have sex with their wives:

-they are cheating
-they find you fat
-you let yourself go and stop using firming cream
-you don't pay attention to them and now your attention is to the children
-the wife stop looking after the husband
-wife cheated first.

Answer 8

if u r heavy lose wait

if u r boring get wild
but dont ever dress in lingerie
women think that will catch a man's attn
he s going to look at u and then turn away
therefore hurting ur feelings

shave ur stuff
walk around u know how
and grab his c o ck
like how they do it in porn

Answer 9

You need to talk and see what the problem is before you start asuming. If nothing gets accomplished that way then marriage counseling would be the key.

Answer 10

first of all lets look at u...have u gained weight??? do u still dress up like u once did??? have u tried wearing sexy clothes...for example a short skirt with no panties on underneath...not necessary for u to wear this outside the home....have u tried porn sites....porn mags....porn on the puter....try new sexual positions that u normally don't do...when was the last time u provided him with h e a d ????

Answer 11

I could use more clues. How long have you been married and are there other "symptoms" of a problem? Health good? Is he depressed because he has health problems? Cell phone usage? Check it out....