nearly a week ago, my boyfriend broke up with me. he's never really trusted me and we have always had arguements about rumours about me and other guys...ive never EVER cheated on him. people have never spoken well bout me cos of things i did in my past (some true some lies) a month ago he confessed that he had cheated like a year ago cos he thought that i did the same. but i ended up forgiving him. and we were great together! cos for once he trusted me. a week ago we started talknig bout the guys i had been with, and things i had done, which were quite embarrassiong so i just denied everything i got really nervous, and he "caught me". now he hates me and thinks im a lying *****. i regret it so much, but i had my reasons. now he doesnt believe anything ive ever told him. and ive only lied on my past! i sent him an email 4 days ago explaining everything, saying sorry and that i really loved him. i really really love this guy, and wud do anything to b with him. please help!
2007-02-01 08:24:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i know i should move on, but he's just so so special to me...i love him so much...i really wana try fixing things up. duno, im just a person that thinks people commit errrors and that they can be fixed. i dont want to let go of someone so special so easily...
i havent been phoning him that much to give him space, phoned him yesterday after 3 days and he didnt wana talk to me(but he was with his friends also)
2007-02-01 08:26:27 · update #1
You are just mourning the loss. Of course he's special to you and of course you regret what happened. But it did happen, it's over and you need to just let yourself mourn that loss. When you are feeling up to it, start dating again. You don't have to appologize for what you have done in the past, it's noone's business but yours.
You guys never had a strong relationship, and you deserve better. I mean, instead of talking to you, he cheats on you? Is that really what you want?
2007-02-01 08:29:17 · answer #1 · answered by acholtz@verizon.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well- you did the right thing by giving him space-you wrote him a ltr too-you can so much more in a ltr then talking face to face.let him read the letter-and give him time to think about everything.if he really loves you,he will forgive you and things will work out.if not than it is best to be honest about your past when you are involved in a serious realationship.beleive me been there done that.the truth is always best you might get it thrown back up in your face later-but you didnt lie.write him another email pour out your heart and come clean about everything-if it was meant to be it will work out. if not than pick up the peices and grow from this experience.good luck
2007-02-01 16:35:00 · answer #2 · answered by terry t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just went through this very thing with a girl, when you lie about something, and that lie is discovered, it makes it very difficult for the person to whom you lied, to trust you on other matters. Look at it as though the situation were reversed. What if you were to suspect your boyfriend of cheating on you, and you decided to confront him about it, and he were to deny having done so. Then you come to find out later, that he had in fact cheated. The next time you suspect him of cheating, you won't be able to believe his denial, because he has already proven himself to be untrustworthy. Time to face the music sister, game over.
2007-02-01 16:40:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you really sure you want him back? If he would cheat on you once He would do it again...Believe me Ive been there. He should have talked to you first before he assumed you had done something like that. I would say you need to move on and if you do get back together you need to start hanging around new people, ones that wont start trouble between you two. Good luck, I hope hes the one for you!
2007-02-01 16:32:17 · answer #4 · answered by daredevil635 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure he will take you back eventually. But it sounds like you two have too much bad history. And maybe you are both to insecure about the other.
If you find a new BF later, I would suggest not telling him everything from your past, the mistakes you made before do not have to be his business. that way he won't constantly worry that you will turn into the person you used to be.
2007-02-01 16:32:43 · answer #5 · answered by susan9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, I'm going through mega heartache at the moment. My x boyfriend split up with me just before Christmas because we where arguing alot, especially about his 'friend' Lesley! she's one of the main reasons we did break up, even though he said he'd never get with her as he doesn't find her attractive etc! But yes, they are officially a couple, broke my heart even more to know he is gettin on in life and i cant. But i think you should move on, even though i dont want to i know its for the best! i still slip up by texting him and phoning him, but eventually that'll stop. If you ever need to talk e-mail me shizzle_chick@hotmail.com xxx
you'll be OK
2007-02-04 05:38:49 · answer #6 · answered by Kayla x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a toxic relationship to me. Move on and please try to put your past behind you. No sense is talking about it with anyone. If it comes up simply say it is either not true or is "in the past." There is no need to try justify not what you have done. You can't change your past but you can have a brighter future.
2007-02-01 16:32:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I would leave it alone. if you force the idea of getting back together you may turn him off. Just lay back and chill, if its meant to be he will contact you. If not, I know you dont want to hear but move on. Why chase someone that made their mind up already.
2007-02-01 16:31:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that you should find a different guy because this guy obvious doesnt love you because he cheated on you when he thought you were but you werent. i think that if he loved you, he wouldnt have cheated on you.
2007-02-01 16:32:22 · answer #9 · answered by babygurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to show and prove to him that you still have feelings for him. you should probably talk to him in private. that will be the perfect time to tell him and let your feelings out.
2007-02-01 16:29:09 · answer #10 · answered by CHI U 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋