I believe sex is something special which should be shared with the one you love. Ideally after marridge. It makes it more special and more intimate. It is nice to know that such a special thing has been saved for you. It also is idealistic to have kids after marriage, it probably gives them a more stable home. This is just my view. Who agrees with me and who does not? Feel free to offend me with your comments. No bad feelings.
2007-02-01 08:21:39 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I just wanna know. do people even marry for love or is it just for sex? You can always use a vibrator.
2007-02-01 08:45:16 · update #1
I really don't agree with this. I think that people are naturally curious, and that it's perfectly reasonable to want to experience sex with other people before finding the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. Waiting for marriage to lose your virginity, in my humble opinion, is like asking for an affair to happen. After ten years of sleeping with the same person, you must start to wonder what it's like with someone else.
As far as the "kids after marriage" subject: I had a child before I was married. My son is now 17 months old, my husband (yes, he's my baby daddy) and I have been married for 5 months. Our home has always been stable; we had always planned to marry, but things came in a different order for us.
Besides that, I believe that people take the commitment of marriage very lightly these days. They get married, divorced and married again in a year. Is that worth saving yourself for? Is that a stable home for a child?
2007-02-01 08:49:52 · answer #1 · answered by Trisha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With luck and the proper raising of my children my 3 sons will follow this doctrine but how realistic it is in todays society is questionable. My best hope and what allows me to sleep at night is the hope that they don't impregnate a woman before marriage and finish school and, God willing, College. To think of them or any other children staining their lives by accident is a fact of life and if it happens I will love them and support them however I can and pick up the pieces however I, they and the prospective girls parents can. Everybody supports what you say but the fact is the reality of it is questionable and perhaps unlikely. PS....your question would be much better suited to the singles category since it matters not what we did as that is very past tense.
2016-03-29 00:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that children should come after marriage, but not sex. If you aren't compatible, it can cause really, really bad feelings and you don't want to be stuck in a marriage with that.
I guess if you feel strongly about it and so does your partner then I wish you the best of luck. You can avoid pregnancy easily enough, though.
2007-02-01 08:26:11 · answer #3 · answered by acholtz@verizon.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not that i don't agree with you bc i do understand, idealistically, what you are saying....... BUT s**is, while not the MOST important thing in a marriage, it surely is important. i personally believe that you need to ensure you are physically compatible with someone before you jump the broom. i am not married but i am sure you can find a lot of sources that will tell you that a lot of marital conflicts arise from s** and many other things....
my point, you better find out what you are working with before you find out that you.. or better yet, he, is not working with anything...if you know what i mean :)
2007-02-01 08:29:09 · answer #4 · answered by Kendra W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I may be just old fashioned but sex should be saved for after marriage.
2007-02-01 08:41:43 · answer #5 · answered by 55 and trying 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What if your man has this tiny little Johnson and you are stuck with it the rest of your life? Wouldn't you have been better off knowing about it BEFORE you took your vows?? I believe in "full disclosure"
2007-02-01 08:28:01 · answer #6 · answered by dreamgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a beautiful thing to save yourself, but what if you marry someone and you find that they suck in bed?? Sex is a large part of any relationship and if it aint good then well.......
2007-02-01 08:25:43 · answer #7 · answered by diamonddude1234 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should wait until after marriage. What if the sex is bad? Then you're screwed.
2007-02-01 08:32:01 · answer #8 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey whatever works for you darlin'...save it if that's your cup of tea.
Not me though...Oh h*ll no.
Variety is the spice of life and I'm so glad I'm able to sample from lifes seasoning cabinet.
2007-02-01 08:26:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to do. I admit that I couldn't.
2016-01-22 08:06:18 · answer #10 · answered by Rebecca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋