Friends hubby is hitting on me???

Question

I was at an indoor pool party at a friends home with my 3 kids and hubby.My friends hubby remarked that i looked really good in my bikini i smiled and said thankyou i try.I dont really talk much to my friends hubby because my hubby does not like him and from how my friend has described him i dont know what to think of him as a person.My friend flipped out after the party while i was helping her clean up and started crying.She hates me now ?how can i undue this it was not done on purpose? Her husband has since started to stare at me and compliment on my body(not in polite terms).I asked him to stop but that just made him more crude.Should i have my hubby go over to talk to him?

I am at the point where i avoid going over to my friends house at all

Answer 1

Exactamundo! Ma'm. If you don't end it Now! It'll just get worse. Sorry for having to put your Frienships on the line. But respect isn't worth losing at any price.

Answer 2

Chances are your friend already knows what a jerk her husband is. She's probably very embarrassed over his behavior towards you. But she can't handle it, so instead she acts angry with you as a defense mechanism. Pointing out her husband's terrible behavior will probably only make her push you away more.

I guess it depends on how much you want to remain friends with her. If you don't care that much, then cut off the friendship. If you do want her for a friend, avoid any situations where her husband is present.

Having your husband talk to the guy, might backfire. The guy could become violent towards your husband and begin to harrass you even more. It's a very touchy situation. Even if you did tell your friend and your husband talked to the guy and the guy stopped making remarks towards you, are you really going to ever feel comfortable around him - probably not.
Good luck!

Answer 3

well froem a 10 year old girl id say arrrange a date 4 u and your friends hubby 2 get 2 gether and talk about what happend cuz hell might back off and if he dont then have your hubby talk to him and if that dont work then get a restraining order by making up some thing and say hes stalking u i know u may not think im 10 but i am cuz i waz 2 young 2 sign up so i asked for my aunts dob and told her its a school proeject and it slid right thru so now u should blive me and im goog at telling u this advice cuz i know a couple things so good luck!

Answer 4

Oh you most definitely need to say something to your husband. If you don't and things get worse your husband is going to blame you for letting it escalate. Maybe you need to stop visiting your friend and just see her and her only. Let her bring the kids over but tell her to leave her creep of a husband at home. It's ot your fault and she shouldn't be mad at you. But I hate to say that down the line you may not have this friendship for long. And that might not be a bad thing.

Answer 5

If he won't stop, then let him know you will file a harrassment report with the cops if he doesn't stop. I don't think your husband should go over and talk to him, because it might start a fight, and if your husband is on the other man's property, you got nuttin but trouble.
Your friend probably doesn't hate you. She just feels betrayed, and loving her husband, it's probably hard not to wonder if you egged him on his some way. Give her time. She'll realize he's a dog.

Answer 6

First of all why do women thin kl that it's OK to walk around in a bikini in front of other men and not expect them to respond or comment on your nice body. Now u have a problem on your hands and this may result in your husband and this guy fighting you need to tell your husband so he can be aware of this guy, but pray something bad doesn't happen. Keep yourself covered up around dude.

Answer 7

if i was you i would tell my husband whats going on because some day or another he´s going to ask you why you don´t visit your friend any more after you talk with him phone your friend and ask if you and your husband can go over and talk with them both it is going to be very uncomfortable but if your friend is a good friend she will stick by you if not then let her go maybe you are not the only friend that he says these things to and she already knows of a few more

personal experience and i am still friends with my friend her husband is long gone

Answer 8

Are you for real? of course tell your husband and your friend she already knows what kind of man she has and she is not really mad at you it's him she is mad at but does not know how to let him know she believes you maybe fear or this is how she deal with his nonsense. i would not worry about her because if she was a real friend she would have believed you and not stopped the friendship. and in time if it's a true friendship she will come back around but give her time I'm sure she is just very embarrassed

Answer 9

Next time he does this, reply with something like what a lousy lover he is, and you've heard that several times. Tell him that as a mature woman, you need a mature man, and he doesn't even come close. Then call his wife and tell her what's going on. That will cover 2 things, first she will see it's not you, and #2, she can see what a lowlife jacka*s she's married to. Good luck!!!!!

Answer 10

The only one at fault here is the friend's husband. You and you husband should have a talk with him, in the presence of his wife. That should fix his wagon!